can we talk internet dating

[menarepants]

beacause im totaly disheartned by it.

Ihad two dates lined up for this weekend. One has cancelled and rearranged ( but really if he wanted to see me, he would have kept to the original date, yes?) and the other has not come up with a meeting time or place, despite being the one who asked.

Ive been online dating on and off for about a year.

There are so many men on there who are either total freekin weridos. or just after a shag. or clearly married.

Then there are the ones that go on about wanting a relationship, but after you meet say there was no spark, but they would happily engage in casual sex with you.

Then there are the ones where you have the first date, it goes well and you never hear from them again.

Then there are the ones that assume you are in a relationship with you just because you are emailig them.

then there are the ones who will talk to you for months and months, and just never ask you out.

It is so crap.

But if i didnt do it, my chances of meeting many men are pretty much zilch.

posted this in relationships, but then remembered the fit man thread and that maybe girls on here will have more experience...

this sounds like a right moan, but im just pretty fed up with it. I know i want/am ready for a relationship. I know what i do and dont want. Im getting myself out there, doing things i enjoy. zilch.

im just fed up with all of it. but everytime i get asked i think, yes go. He might be really nice and either i dont hear from them, or i do and get told there was no spark ( from a 2 hour meeting in a coffee shop) but if i want a shag to let them know.

ffs

I don't do internet dating but can I suggest you join a forum of something you are really interested in and get chatting to people on there? (men + single obv)

I've joined a group called Spice, as I decided I would rather be out doing something interesting (and make new friends of both sexes) than sit indoors with my laptop waiting for some guy to get in touch. It's not a dating site, but there are loads of events, you choose what you want to do, and turn up. About 70% of members are single.

that spice thing looks good. sadly not in my area though.

I met a lOVELY man via internet dating. I've been seeing him for 15 months now, we have been Making Plans.

But I did have my share of tossers. one bloke took me out on a second date, introduced me to his MOTHER and made me fill out her birthday card from both of us, then dumped me by text the next day. Seriously

Another I met for coffee, and he whined that his mum hadn't ironed the shirt he'd wanted to wear and he's had to wear another one - No No No!

jeeze - thats bad! how long did it take though colditz.....????

please tell me that odds are on for me to find someone nice soon?

ummmm don't know. couple of years maybe but to be honest I wasn't really looking very hard.

just looked at the website of Spice looks Ok, but they do charge for everything, so not an option for everyone

The monthly fee for Spice is less than all but the free dating sites, I suspect, and you are paying for what you get eg a weekend away or a meal out or an activity. Not an option for everyone, I agree, but I don't expect free nights out or weekends away (if I want a free weekend away, I go to my parents' )

I thought I should share some positive views on internet dating.
I met some total.....(trying to think of polite name for them)...tossers!!
I chatted to a nice guy who i didnt fancy but was a nice email friend. We emailed for about 5 months and texted for another two months before chatting on the phone for a few weeks before finaly meeting. The whole time i thought he was a mate. We met in my local pub and talked all night, then at closing time he walked me to the taxi office and we talked for another 2 hours on a bench. When he kissed me goodbye......OH MY GOD!!
We have now been together 5 years married for nearly 2 years and have two children together.

I guess what I am trying to say is that you can meet some nice normal men online. Yes they are not always easy to spot but it is possible.
Good luck!

re; Spice - I don't mind paying for things liek accomodation etc, but if there's a walk in the park and they ask you to contribute £10 - that is something else...

Just looked at the spice thing and I would be interested in doing some of the less adventurous things they offer. Seems like a better way of getting a social life than internet dating tbh.

However I don't have a baby sitter, would struggle to pay their membership fee let alone the activities themselves and travel to them. And I would be seriously embarassed at my lack of wardrobe (even for the pub quizes let alone summer ball!).

They all look pretty affluent in the gallery pictures. I am shy at the best of times and would feel seriously out of place. It's hard enough at work with people pitying me for lack of clothes/makeup/haircut.

Lilac it looks fun and I'm sure you're enjoying it. But in reality is this group suitable for those of us on limited income who struggle to get by. I do want to 'live my dreams', honestly I do, but I can't actually afford too.

This is actually why I don't internet date too. Maybe I should wait till my ds is grown up a bit more and I have some disposable income first...

gilly - gow old is your ds?

i've been toying with joining nexus www.nexus-uk.co.uk/ - given my advanced age (45) .....

Agree dating sites are pants! I've been on them on and off for the last 4 years. You've pretty much summed up how men are on those sites.. but I've also heard women are just as bad! Wish everyone would just stop playing games - that's for teenagers fgs!

It's a good way to not feel lonely I guess as you can chat to people, but as for meeting someone decent, it's yet to happen for me too!

Had a coffee date yesterday - as soon as I saw him I just knew he wasn't what I was looking for and it was the longest hour of my life! I know you shouldn't go by the first date but when you get older I think you just know what you're looking for! Now I feel really disillusioned again and thinking about taking my profile off - until I get really lonely again! lol

Think you have to get out and about more but being a single parent also, can end up a seriously expensive night out with babysitters etc!

If anyone knows the answer to meeting a decent man please tell me!