What should I say to him????

[frazzle26]

My ex husband is in the navy and he left on deployment on the 23rd of April and has made absolutely no contact whatsoever with our son. He is due back on the 21st of August and I am getting increasingly worried about this.

He is obviously going to want to speak to our son at some point and my son desperately wants to speak to him. How do I handle the situation???

My ex is not a very nice person when he doesn't get his own way. Not necessarily violent but a lot of shouting and intimidating behaviour. I don't think he should be allowed to see our son immediately until he has rebuilt their relationship by regular phone calls for at least a few weeks to at least try and repair the damage.I also want some sort of explanation for the lack of contact.

What do you think???

say nothing.
how do you knwo he will want contact when he ahsnt ahd any?

is relationship between him and son. put them on speaker phone so you can listen in - but is between them...

how old is son?

you could suggest initial contact in public place with you near by for example.

but think about it -if otehr relative and you ahvent seen for a while- you dont ask them to make phone calls for weeks before meeting face to face eg grandparent from overseas might not have contact but fly over and they see grand child..

from child point of view - maybe he jsut wants to see his dad?

maybe explanations uneecessary?

maybe ask another third party to "supervise" contact so your feelings/emotions dont get in teh way?