to cut it sort of short.
i separated from dh in march/april as it was not a good relationship and i was becoming increasingly repressed and like a door mat!
ex was seeing kids at weekend but then changed mind and said he wanted them on a tuesday.. bizzarre as he know my eldest is at school and my 3 yr old is at pre school. he would cal on a monday night and swear/ verbally abuse me down the phon so i decided to stop contact till some formal ground ruls have been arranged.
we have been to our single appointments and are due to arrange a formal agreement on the 11th aug.
last week we went away and i agreed to let him come on the last day to spend time with the kids.
he was rude and arrogant the whole time and leaft the kids with a stranger while he went on the fairground rides with my eldest.
i saw this and went mad, he did not se the danger in leaving the children ( all under three) witha lady he only met 10 mins ago.
so? up till now ive been happy for him to have contact but he has been phoning me till 3 am and sending texts throughout the night telling me im a bad mother and that im going to hell etc. i have been ignoring them and last night he turned up at the house demanding to see the kids?. (of course they were all in bed asleep).
i asked him to leave and he continued to call and text me through the night!
this morning when we were lewving to walk to the town he was waiting outside my house and started crying, he upset the kids and told them that he wa going away fora lon time and would never forget them blada blada?.
they all ended up crying and my son was screaming for his dady as he drove of and left me there totally stuned!
when we got home i had several emails from himself and his eldet daughter (19) telling me that im a cow and not half the woman his ex wife is etc etc?..
i got so upset and the kids were beings so challenging from the earlier upset that i totally lost it and shouted?. ALOT..
its not their fault and im so ashamed that i went mad at them.. ( mostly my 5 year old) i burst into tears and sobbed on the floor?. my eldest daughter asked me why i was sad and i said i was really sorry and was a bad mummy forshouting? she told me i was the best mummy in the world and got up set too and we all sat there and cried and had a big sobbing cuddle!
i feel so rubbish and like a crap mum.. i dont know what to do?. all my calm parenting and turned to pot today and i fee like a wreck!
please advise? thankyou
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what to do...ex is being so difficult please advise
kimplus4 · 24/07/2010 23:04
to cut it sort of short.
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