Good evening,
Just in need of some reassurance. I'm a single mum and been seeing someone for 6 months. He's great all round really. I was scared to start something with him at first because his roots are in moeocco and I feared the classic senario of it starting out great but later down the line him showing no respect for women. I've been pushing through that fear and going on my feelings for him now, so in that way I already feel I'm taking a chance on him. Hes great with dd, although of course, like anyone, parenting skills don't match up I feel. But that's to be expected. He makes a real effort with her and she adores him. He runs a buiness and works hard. I'm in love with him. But I just broke up. Why? Because of dope. He smokes, only on weekends he says. But for me its a huge confrontation. I don't want to be with him while he's getting stoned. But neither do I want him to go to smoking parties without me, like tonight, simply because I won't like it and so can't fit into that world of his.
It's not that I judge. I did it too when I was younger. Just that I don't like it now and don't want it in my life.
I'm wondering if breaking up is the biggest mistake I'll ever make. How often is it that a man you feel so much for comes into your life, especially when you're a single mum? I don't like to hear myself asking that question, as it shouldn't be an issue, but the fact is it is. I'm 39 next week and I wonder if this was my last call.....
Anyone else got any experience with issues like this? Am I alone?