Sex-a long time

[allaloneinbed]

I haven't had sex for four years since I split up from my dh when I was pregnant.
I don't meet many men ,don't get out much for the usual reasons and work with mainly women.
I have met someone I would like to ask out but I am so worried about it now.I have had 2 c-sections and the second one has left my stomach in amess to add to the very bad strech marks etc pregnancy leaves you with so if I met someone even for a one nighter they would know thatI ahve kids.
Does anyone have any advice ?
And please tell me I am not the only one to go this long.

Be honest about the kids. My best friend used to lie about having a son and all the blokes used to dump her when they found out because she lied. I have found that most blokes are too busy trying to get some to bother worrying about your strechmarks( no offence intended).
IME i found men appreciate a figure that is natural(yes! strechmarks and jelly bellies too!)
I'm also a single mum and waited 18 months before having sex again( this weekend just to brag a bit!!!)
If you can, try to stop worrying about your imperfections and concentrate on the good bits that attracted him!

I'd like to reassure you, it's about 4 years since I've had sex now, I just simply haven't met anyone I'd remotely like to have it with. And that is partly due to not going out etc. Really, must second what spursmum says, most blokes really will not notice your belly, I really would not worry about it. If he's any good, you won't be worrying about it either when it comes to it!

I felt a bit weird sleeping with my new fella for the first time a couple of weeks ago. I hate my body, my belly is jelly and I've got vitiligo which means I've got huge pigmentation loss ALL over my body including my face which I'm very self concious about.

Its taken a while for new dp to convince me that he dosen't care about all that and he finds me sexy anyway

I don't think a lot of men are all that bothered about stretch marks anyway.My stretch marks are the least of my worries about my body. I just wish I didn't have vitiligo

i didnt have sex for 2 years after splitting up with partner when pregnant.....had traumatic labour and had to be stitched up quite alot....well, as funny as it may sound...they actually sewed me up wrong...i had to had check-ups every month to see if i was naturally 'adjusting'......i was soon told that if i was to lead a normal sex life again, i would need to be cut and re-stitched....oh happy days!
well..i stayed away from men for 2 years...then came along a loverly fella...and i just went for it....hurt like hell...but am perfectly fine now...without operation....
...seconds after having a baby never say 'sew me up good and proper'.....coz they certainly will!