WWYD regarding dds dodgy daddy?

[poshsinglemum]

DD has never met her daddy. When I was pregnant he wanted me get a termination and buggered off abroad to Iran. His late mum was from Iran but he grew up in Greece.
As soon as dd was born however, he decided that she was amazing after seeing her photos and he has phoned very occasionally. He would love to come over (apparently) but his passport is fucked (apparently) so he can't leave the country (apparently).

I'm not bothered either way as I'm over him. I don't even care if he's lying as I don't want him back but i'm worried about what to do if he DOES come back regarding access. I am worried taht he will run off with her to Iran which is a really fucked up country with legalised stoning and no humna rights. If he took her their I'd never get her back. Shall I just cut my losses and never speak to him again. I don't have his number anyway so I can't phone him.

Such a shame as I'd like her to know her dad but I just don't trust him.

access centre so it's supervised contact, you can also get a prohibition order which is a court order prevening something, in this case, her father trying to leave the country with her. He'll need a passport aswell won't he?

Did you name him on the birth certificate? How old is your daughter - as you weren't married, if she was born before a certain date he wouldn't have parental responsibility. I don't see how he could leave the country with her if you have her passport.

His new home being Iran is obviously scary but may I suggest it's neither here nor there: he's not exactly meeting the definition of a parent by 'phoning occasionally' and liking the look of photos of her. So running off anywhere with her (the other side of the park, let alone overseas) would be pretty much abduction as far as you're concerned. Is it actually likely he would do this?

I would and take a passive role about their relationship. Let him do the the effort. If he is not bothered for more contact don't try to improve the situation, it would only result in tears...

If child was born before 2003. However, parental responsibility is incredibly easy to get if you are the biological parent.

Get a passport, and hide it. He won't be able to take her out of the country without it. (He may well be able to apply for a passport for her if you haven't done so already, and if he is named on the birth cert)