Damn fool!

[lionstigersandbearsohmy]

Hello all

Just looking for some words of comfort I guess. Signed up to a dating site a couple of weeks ago, just out of curiosity really didn't expect to 'meet' anyone I would actually like!
Well I did, a real kindred spirit, genuinly took me by surprise as I'm a very level-headed kind of gal. Anyway last night we were chatting and he said he doesn't feel as ready to move his life forward as he thought (he's a single Dad of 3, been on his own 9 months). We had swapped numbers and are on each other's fb etc. and he says he would really like to stay in touch and 'would like to take me for a pizza in the near future'(??!)
Obviously thought he was probably lying, but checked the website and he has cancelled himself and has left a few nice comments on my fb page since.
The thing is I feel so bloody sad, actually hurting which is crazy I didn't even really know the man, the conversations we had were nothing like I had experienced for years and I feel a fool for letting my guard down even for a short while. I have cancelled my membership too as I can't face talking to anyone else....just feel so so sad, what a fool!

YOur not a fool at all!

Good for you for getting yourself out there -that takes alot of courage.

I can understand why you feel sad - you got your hopes up , a new man in your life - times like these, with the emails / tx's its fun and exciting and when it stops suddenly it's horrible.

But DON'T feel like a fool - you gotta get yourself out there and it just so happens that this guy wasn't right for you but i can bet there are a lots of people you could have fun with chatting and flirting and you never know things could get serious with someone.

So don't be down on yourself - pat yourself on the back for putting yourself out there again.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on, you did it before and you can do it again

YOur not a fool at all!

Good for you for getting yourself out there -that takes alot of courage.

I can understand why you feel sad - you got your hopes up , a new man in your life - times like these, with the emails / tx's its fun and exciting and when it stops suddenly it's horrible.

But DON'T feel like a fool - you gotta get yourself out there and it just so happens that this guy wasn't right for you but i can bet there are a lots of people you could have fun with chatting and flirting and you never know things could get serious with someone.

So don't be down on yourself - pat yourself on the back for putting yourself out there again.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on, you did it before and you can do it again

Hi Lions,

Don't think like that, dating sites are really intense places I've found, (much easier to say what you like when your not actually face to face IYKWIM) I met someone on a dating site nearly three years ago, we decided we were each others sole mates!!!

We moved in together and we were really happy, till I found out he was e-mailing, texting, other women and arranging to meet them, now I'm on my own again, but much happier, put it down to experience like me.

You are not a fool, far from it.

Dating sites should be treated like a big pub. You'll meet mostly unsuitable idiots & occasionally a nice one.

You met a nice one who let you know where you stand. He could have took it further, got his leg over and THEN decided that he wasn't ready.

At which point would you swear never to go to a pub ever again? Would you blame said pub for meeting a loser there?

Same goes for dating sites. I'll never understand why (mostly) women will blame the dating site for their dating woes. I dare say you'll meet more idiots in one night on the town than online.

At the end of the day, dating is a minefield. if you are this cut up over a guy you barely know then perhaps you need to take a break and reevaluate if you are ready yet to date.

That's exactly what I have done.

I know I met a nice one that's why I'm sad, I don't have a problem with the dating site, didn't say that I did I just don't think it's for me...not at this time anyway.

I am not the sort of person who would usually let myself get upset by something like this and of course I'll be fine, this one just hit me a little hard for some reason that's all

Agree with Niceguy on this one. Have met some very nice men on dating sites but only one who really floats my boat and am yet not really sure how interested he is in me although we are on a 4th date! If you want to date you just have to accept you will meet some nice me who 'are just not that into you' and try not to take it personally.

Also avoid getting in too deep with anyone if you are not sure where they are coming from. That way you are less likely to get burnt. Above all though, enjoy it for what it is, hopeflly a nice night out with an interesting guy! If you are not enjoying it then maybe its just not the right time for you