37 weeks pregnant and ex moving in with girlfriend of 2 months

[becausewecan]

Hello, I'm 37 weeks pregnant with my first child and need some advice.
I split with the baby's father before finding out I was pregnant in December. I knew the relationship wasn't right and didn't want to get back together just for the 'sake of the child'.
So I decided to go it alone but was happy for my ex boyf to have access.
However today he has informed me that he has a new girlfriend of 2 months who is he is now moving in with. She currently lives over 200 miles away so this has been a long distance relationship mainly via Facebook!
I have no issue with him moving on and having another relationship but I feel uncomfortable with my soon to be born baby being taken into their new home and interacting with a woman he hardly knows.
He tells me he is in love and this is the real thing but he has a history of throwing himself in at the deep end. He's still married to a woman abroad he met on holiday and had a baby with 2 years ago (one of the reasons we split up in the first place). He has also spent the last 8 months trying to convince me to get back together with him.
I just want my baby to have stability and not a succession of random women in her life.
He's not on the birth certificate yet so legally what rights does he have?
Would I be able to prevent her meeting my baby until I was sure this was a stable and secure relationship? How much access should I give him?
Any advice would be appreciated, thanks

He's a twonk. He doesn't have any rights at all at the moment, if he's written as the father on the birth certificate then he has limited rights, parental responsibility just means he has an input into your child's education/immunisations, it doesn't give him any visitation rights. It's down to you how much access you give him, if you are breastfeeding then it's not wise to allow him to take your baby away from you and 200 miles is too far anyway, if he wants to see your baby then he'll have to make the journey.

Try not to panic, it will all work out OK.

"it doesn't give him any visitation rights." is that true? I thought fathers did have access rights, and that the courts could impose them? Is that completely waived if they're not on the birth cert?

It is the child's right to have access to both parents, so technically no, he doesn't have visiting rights but the child does. It isn't as simple as the Mother refusing contact and that being it. A court will grant a father access unless they are a severe risk to the child. (Some have even found they'll get access even then).

First off I wouldn't get too worked up by it. Baby won't be going far from you for a long time. You should first suggest he comes to you for access, alone, until their relationship is more established and he can take baby out for longer periods.

Its going to be tricky at first, with baby being so little, to sort out contact. It'll be a case of making the most of it until baby old enough to go to regular visits with Dad. By that time, she might be history. Try and talk calmly with the ex and agree on an approximate timescale that you BOTH wil adhere to. So think about for when you meet someone in the future and realistically how long you will be leaving it. Its no good imposing a year time limit on the ex if you then will find it too long when it comes around to you! Lol

Good luck with the remainder of your pregnancy. Not long now :D

Thanks for the advice everyone. I feel a lot better having thought it through. Think I was just a bit in shock when I first heard the news, another thing to contend with along side my crazy hormones!