First bout of illness alone

[Flamesparrow]

DD2 has had a cold since Tuesday, and then sickness all last night. It was my weekend with the DC.

I am soooooooooooo tired.

The other two are bouncing. DS woke early and decided to do painting in the lounge

I want to cope. I need to cope. But at the same time I desperately want to call DH and tell him to take his children out for the day and let me get some sleep.

Annoying thing is, he probably would if I asked.

Why not ask him if you need the help? If it was your mum or a friend you could phone for help you'd most like;y be doing it right? SO why not ask their dad to have them so that dd2 can get some proper rest and quiet (and so can you).

Because you know it's likely to do the rounds and you're all going to get the bug she has. Which is probably another reason you feel so tired too.

If their dad would love to have them and is only too happy to help then don't feel guilty about it. Ask for help and be gratious about accepting it. It's not like you can enjoy your time with them when you're clearing up after a sick dd2 and feeling under the wether yourself.

Do all of you a favour and ohone him now, before he makes other plams!

Excuse terribles typing, been up since 3am myself

I say ask him too. You would do it in return, right?

Hope you feel better soon. Awful trying to look after DC while feeling ill.

I've sent him a text. His phone may be dead though (charger issues). If he gets it then he will reply, if he doesn't then I have no way to contact him anyway.

Feel like I am giving in by asking for help, but he was the one who left in the first place. I never said I wanted or could be a single mum iyswim.

I know what you mean about giving in. We want to be able to cope and be strong and prove we can do it despite them. But you're not giving in here. This is about what is best for the dc. Two climbing up the walls with one poorly isn't fair on any of them. And there's no point having your weekend jjust for the sake of it when none of you gain anything from it.

So you're not giving in at all, you're putting your dc first and doing what you need to for them.

I do hope you heard back from him and are having a well earned rest along with your poorly dd2.

He had plans (he had told me, and I had completely forgotten about them) As he has never turned me down before, and they are with a male (I have issues with his female friend), I didn't get stroppy .

Lovely friend saw on FB about the situation, and she had them for a bit whilst I went to the shops for some much needed supplies. DD2 was there over the last few days anyway, so whatever she has, they will already have been in contact.

The break round shops was lovely, DC got to burn off some energy. I got to have a chat and someone else hold DD2 for a bit Feeling all renewed and ready to cope again now. DD2 is in bed, and the other two are collapsed in front of cartoons.

Aw glad your day improved slightly flame - it's awful when you or dcs get ill and you are on your own.

Since I had a bad bug I have made sure I always have a carton of UHT milk in the cupboard and a loaf of bread in the freezer! Emeergency chocolate is good too, just for you though not the dcs!

Next time don't hesitate before calling their dad, I know it's hard but put your dcs first - you being worn out and pulled in all directions when you don't need to be doesn't just affect you, it affects them too. Sometimes just an hours help makes all the difference.

Ooh I bought choc earlier and forgot!

That couple of hours to shop and chat was all I needed I managed to get housework done, decent food in the DC, and they were all asleep by 7.20pm I've finally had the bath I've been craving.

Will be good and call him next time.

Glad it worked out OK!