My Husband and I moved out of London after 12 years, after the pandemic, back to Birmingham where we are both originally from, because we had made the decision to start a family, and the general advice from everyone is to move nearer family and friends at this time.
We have been trying for 6 months (living in Birmingham for 1 year) and I'm really not enjoying my life here. Our work is still in London, so we are both commuting several days a week, and although its really nice being nearer our oldest friends, I really miss London. My Husband has a big family, but I just have my Mother who lives alone - she is a big reason we moved back as I know she will want to be near her grandchildren.
I worry that I've made a decision and jumped the gun about needing to be near family and family whilst pregnant/ a new mother but that's even happened. All I know is right now I'm really not enjoying living in this new city despite feeling like it should offer me everything I need. I feel like I'm living my life for my Husband and our families... but I don't know if I will feel differently once we have a baby.
I struggle with my Mental Health, and I loved the variety London offered (history, parks, culture, dining etc.) which I feel Birmingham just doesn't offer in the same way. We would have to downsize to move back to London and my Husband doesn't want that - but I feel like despite also working full time I take on a lot of the burden of this large house we don't need yet. I think about my maternity leave in Birmingham and I'm worried my new environment will feel quite depressing, despite having people around. I loved my old life in London, but I know this would also look different with a child.
Any advice would be really appreciated.
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Hydrangeahome · 12/09/2023 18:46
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