Looking for advice. We live in Ewell (zone 6). My husband is Italian and I’m from the North. We have a DS (aged 2) and I’m 34 weeks pregnant.
we have no community where we are (2020 babies). I know some mums and we do play dates but I have no one to call on in need (I.e. put back out last week, hubby away, toddler and prego…)
its so expensive to live here. After we’ve paid everything (esp childcare) it’s very very tight - and set to get even tighter. So we have very little to do the things we used to and we never go central anymore.
I have a very small family in co Durham, who I adore. My husbands parents have passed and ext family are in Italy. we have lovely friends and work opportunities here, things we couldn’t have in the north.
If we sold up and moved north, we’d lose our main asset but could buy something fabulous/be mortgage free and have a better lifestyle.
I worry all we would have is a nice home and no opportunities. My husband is very genteel and the part I come from is quite… blokey. I pretty much ran away from there at 15 years ago and don’t know if I can handle going back. The way of thinking is harder after so much time in a big city.
Has anyone made the transition? How was it? How did it work out for you?
Im a worrier by nature. Probably overthinking.
if you made it this far, thank you