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Housing for 50 year old with special needs and severe autism

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LyricalBoudicca · 23/05/2022 21:35

Can anyone help? Man with special needs (who lived with his mum until she died) is leaving old family home as it has been sold (contract exchanged). Mum never did anything to 'set him up' with supported accommodation as she was too proud- executors sold the house so he's leaving. He has not been left any money under the will (there wouldn't be much ) however, he's been known to the Council all his life (residential special schools, never employed etc
). I emailed the council and they said unless he had an eviction order they can't do anything. Is this right ? I could let him stay a few nights with me but I live 60 miles away (he is attached to his town though).

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tothemoonandbackbuses · 23/05/2022 21:53

Adult social services would be the first port of call. If they exist in your area charities that support people to access the benefits and accommodation they need

bellac11 · 23/05/2022 21:55

Surely he should have been able to remain in the home if he was physically and financially dependent on the deceased?

And he wasnt a beneficiary, how does that work if he is her son?

rnsaslkih · 23/05/2022 22:01

Don't let him stay with you a few nights. This sounds nasty and evil but the state will not help him if you are helping him. They will not recognise or care that what you are doing is temporary.

rnsaslkih · 23/05/2022 22:03

I would get back on to the council and tell them that on completion day, he will sit on the street outside the property and have nowhere to go. And ask them to give you a number for who to call for an emergency pickup. Tell them you live out of area and can't help.

PermanentTemporary · 23/05/2022 22:05

I would ring adult social services and the local adut learning disability team and get advice as a vulnerable adult is about to become homeless.

Who were the executors? What were the terms of his Mum's will? Did she expect this to happen?

Clymene · 23/05/2022 22:07

Why/how has she died and not left him anything?

jclm · 23/05/2022 22:10

rnsaslkih · 23/05/2022 22:01

Don't let him stay with you a few nights. This sounds nasty and evil but the state will not help him if you are helping him. They will not recognise or care that what you are doing is temporary.

This.
Don't let him stay with you or else SS will wash their hands of him.

Boomboomboomboom · 23/05/2022 22:10

He might have a claim on the estate if it did not make proper provision for him and he was dependent on his mother.

Much of the supported stock is guarded by adult social services and the local CMHT who are gate keepers so first port of call should be to Social Services for a Care Act assessment and the local housing authority (might be same or different councils depending on where he lives).

There are some supported accommodation providers who run their own lists too though so a Google search might help you if the Housing authority cannot.

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LyricalBoudicca · 24/05/2022 06:46

This is really helpful information - sounds like a complete maze. Will they 'call his bluff'?

Re: why she didn't leave him anything ? As far as I know she didn't want to lose his benefits and whatever was left (not much) would be used up and he'd be left in the same position at some point (actually making it more difficult to get off and come back on to benefits- NB very resistant to seeking help - has no )so the siblings got their small portions. He did have social workers pop in over the years but was very resistant to their intervention and even avoided answering the door to them! She died quickly and I think if she could have foreseen the problems she may have done things differently.

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Boomboomboomboom · 24/05/2022 14:26

But he could be granted for example a mere life interest in the property rather than proceeds of sale, which would keep a roof over his head. Any litigation might be difficult if he lacks capacity (issue specific and different to litigation capacity).

gamerchick · 24/05/2022 14:30

Did the siblings force the house sale? Poor bugger.

Contact adult SS. Inform them that he's on his own and they will have to find someone to help him. Do.not take him in under any circumstances. It's a pull the drawbridge up thing. It's shit but they won't help otherwise.

settingsunshine · 24/05/2022 18:47

That's a bit rough that the siblings forced the sale of his home, sounds like they are happy to take his share but not assist him getting housed Confused families huh!

bellac11 · 24/05/2022 18:56

Obviously there are likely to be other factors but generally speaking if left a house, after selling there would be a substantial amount of inheritance.

Bog standard house of 200k? 3 sibs? 70k each?

Are there debts in the estate or an outstanding mortgage?

That sort of money will impact on some of his benefits although not all of them

he really needs support from someone who can take him through all of this.

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