Hello everyone,
My question has probably been asked million times on various forum groups but I feel like I have noone to really seriously discuss it with.
I am single, currently live in London (zone 5 though) in a one bed flat that I managed to find for a decent price beginning of last year. I work centrally for a salary just below London's average.
I moved here from Birmingham/ Bristol because of work. Basically my industry is small enough and majority of interesting projects are in London, pretty common. I wanted more career opportunities. When I moved I put myself one condition - I will not house share (again). I have had some bad experience in the past and I found it cost me too much stress. I have been living alone for 3 years now but also unfortunately been unlucky enough to have to move multiple times (between cities).
A year on, I am finding myself a bit trapped in my life situation. I haven't quite developed good social network and feel pretty lonely here. I don't really get much of what the city has to offer. My housing expenses take also about 55% of my salary plus a long commute... so I find it very difficult to socialise a lot, both time wise and expense wise. I like the area where I live but in the last few months have also started suffering from anxieties and depression because of feeling of isolation. I don't really have relationship with my family in my home country which does not help either.
Also, few months I also renewed my tenancy agreement for 18 months. I wasn't in a good place at the time after just being dumped by another man I dated. I was dreaded about the idea of moving house again, and doing this all alone, yet again.
I have spoken to a few people (whose attention I managed to catch) and some suggested getting a room in a shared flat. This way i would always have a company and wouldn't spend nights crying in my pillow. This would be closer and would free up some of my salary to socialise and do things. I did some maths and indeed there would be saving but obviously house move is also very expensive (plus I don't have a break clause and have plenty of own furniture by now). I have spend so much money in last few years on house moves.... Maybe I am just really bad with money.... ?
It sounds a bit complicated... I know it's my anxiety speaking though me too. Can you share your thoughts please....?