For all parents whose children are not doing any schoolwork esp Yr 11s

[Nothavingfunrightnow]

I have stopped asking, begging, demanding, bribing, offering help, offering to do it with him each day - I have stopped it all. For the greater part of the last 10 months I have been trying to get my Yr 11 son to do schoolwork and the effort has had us both in knots. So I have decided to stop.

He is a fairly high achiever, and copes well at school, but for some reason he has an enormous block when it comes to working at home. The amount of work that is given to them overwhelms him and he is desperate to get back to school.

For months I have felt like I was failing him in not being to get him to work, but I have decided to pull right back and let our relationship get back to where it was. It is just the two of us at home and I am working remotely full time so I don't have the wherewithal to continue any fight with him.

I am not asking for advice or any sort of direction - I wanted to post this because I have seen so many posts about children who have become sullen and withdrawn, who are not engaging with schoolwork and whose parents are distressed.

Please believe me that I am worried sick for him, too, but I don't want him to feel any worse than he already does. For those of you in a similar situation, please don't feel that your child is the only one not engaging with remote schooling.

It sounds like you did your best. It’s hard - most of the arguments I have with my year 10 dd are school work related.

Same here. I despair but there’s only so much encouraging, begging or cajoling I can do.

I feel for you. Aren't the GCSEs cancelled? Are the school setting mock exams for teacher grading?

It's different to last year where they stopped dead in March, my two are still being assessed for their final predicted grades, it is actually paying off as one of predicted 2 grades higher than he was in Nov and the other is one grade higher, lessons are still very much on.

Sorry pressed post too soon.
It can be positive to fail, I didn't do a stick for my GCSEs I was bright and did badly . I retook the next year but it taught me that you can't rest. In your Laurels it's just a life lesson and they are nearly adult so sometimes we have to let them make their own choices