I'm really struggling...

[formerbabe]

Just for background...I'm a sahm. Dh wfh and genuinely working really hard.

Two DC...9 and 12.

I'm coping ok with my 9 year olds school work... three/four pieces a day.

I cannot cope with my 12 year olds workload. He's not lazy but he's easily distracted. He has so much work. We are barely keeping on top of it. My anxiety is sky high. This is not a teacher bashing thread. I'm grateful to them...they're doing a tough job. I just don't know why I'm failing. I'm trying to make sure the maths and English is done every day but there's work for every subject...music, art, drama, pe, design, geography, history, food, science. Every day I feel like we're getting more behind.

I have no time. All day all I do is help them with their school work and prepare food. We go on one walk every day.

I don't want my dcs education to suffer...I just feel like I can't do this. I can't do languages...I'm useless, nor can I do computer science and music. Everything else I can blag. I feel so guilty for not being able to get through everything

This is so hard

Honestly don't worry about it too much. Focusing on English and maths is sensible, maybe also prioritise science. Perhaps you could get your DC12 to work out a sort of timetable of, say 30 min slots between say 9am and 3pm, with a lunch break and a few other short breaks, and let him choose which other subjects he does. If the school is setting too much work then it is guaranteed that not all children will be doing it all.

I have 12 yrs old too. I just let them work for certain set times, 9-11 and 2-4 everyday. I don't help, unless asked. At 12, they should be able to do it themselves.

I've got 3 dc and I'm a sahp. Mine are 13, 11 and nearly 2. My 11 year old dd is good at getting on with things so I don't worry about her, just ask occasionally if she's keeping on top of it. My 13 year old ds has SEN (ASD) so really struggles. Tbh he's not done much. It's hard for me to force him as I'm busy with the toddler. I was getting anxious seeing other parents constantly going on about home schooling but decided not to worry. Their school have been quite good, they sent this update yesterday. I screenshotted part of their letter. I know all schools vary, but I thought this was reasonable.

My daughters school is setting “must do” work for maths and English. Anything else is a suggestion and we have done one a week. I include baking, cooking and cycling as wider curriculum.