Terrified and embarrassed!

[JosieSmith1]

Hi everyone, before I start I will apologise for the whining!

I am not pregnant but recently married and we're talking about trying for a baby.

My problem is, I am terrified of internal exams, which someone on here said I could refuse, so that's a load off my mind, but I'm worried that when the labour starts I'll be embarrassed about my husband seeing my 'parts' in that way. How could he possibly want to go near me again after witnessing something so disgusting! And I'm embarrassed that I'll make a fool of myself and don't want him to witness all the groaning and screaming that goes on! However, I know that when I'm in that much pain I'll want him there, so one way or another I'll have to deal with it!

I just can't get it all straight in my head and I keep bursting into tears as I'm so worried about it! I don't want my husband to see me any differently, and I don't want to feel degraded by the labour process! Help please!

Sorry again!

Hi there

I didn't want to ignore your message, but do you realise that you've posted this in "Mumsnet Local - Newcastle"? You might be better of re-posting it in "Childbirth".

FWIW - I was worried about this too, but to be honest, once I was in established labour, I really couldn't have cared less about whether DH saw me naked, legs akimbo, swinging from the chandelier! I was almost totally oblivious to him (poor man!). I certainly never felt degraded - quite the opposite in fact. I felt all-powerful, and invincible once dd had been born!

Have you thought about having some hypnotherapy or going to hypnobirthing classes to help you try and relax?

Ok thanks Littlefish, will re-post. And thanks for your comments. I know my hubby will be very supportive when the time comes, I just might not appreciate it at the time!