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Anyone due in June?

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Sabineba · 22/01/2010 16:10

Hi all,

I'm new on here and just wondering if anyone else is due in or around June this year? It'd be nice to hear what others are making of the NHS care they're getting here - I have to say so far I'm not very impressed...

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PanicMode · 22/01/2010 18:59

Hi there,

I'm due 30th April, so a bit before you, but this is my fourth, and my second baby that I will have at Pembury (various medical reasons mean I can't have a homebirth) or go to Crowborough.

Sorry to hear you're not happy, but I'm interested so far I've not had a problem - have seen the same MW all through both pregnancies, and had a positive experience at Pembury last time (maybe because I was literally only there for 5 mins before DS2 was born!), and had a brilliant consultation with the consultant last Friday - for the first time I felt as though they were actually listening to me about my medical condition and its impact on my labours.....

What are you not impressed with - are you booked in to Pembury?

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Sabineba · 25/01/2010 10:27

Hi,

I've not decided where I'll have the baby yet, it's still quite early days. But I heard Pembury has 14 beds in the maternity ward, which I think is horrendous! How are you supposed to get any privacy with so many other people so close by?!

I'm seeing the midwife at my doctor's surgery, and so far I've already had to see a different one once (out of three appointments) because she was off sick. They've also made lots of mistakes in my records, and I just have the feeling that there's not much communication going on between different doctors/midwives, or with me as a patient for that matter. They just seem to assume you know what you're supposed to do...

But it's good to hear you've had a positive experience at Pembury! Have to say the scan I had there was great, I'm just a bit wary about the hospital wards... (should have waited until the new hopsital was ready! ;-)

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PanicMode · 25/01/2010 14:10

Hi again,

You obviously deliver your baby in privacy on the delivery suite and then although there are 14 beds on the post natal ward, you are in a cubicle, albeit only curtained. But you can pay to have a private room if you want one afterwards.

Personally, I've quite liked having other people to chat to, especially after my first as it can be quite isolating/boring afterwards if you are on your own and you aren't allowed to discharge yourself for 6 hours or whatever it is. Although I've usually come home as soon as possible because I don't really like hospital - with my third I delivered my son at 2am, and was on the postnatal ward by about 8am, and stayed until about 3pm after the paed. had checked him out and discharged us.

Sorry to hear that you don't feel you are getting the support or the continuity you need though - talk to them about it at your next appointment. I know I've been lucky so far, but then my first two were born in London, so I never saw the same person twice!!

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Sabineba · 25/01/2010 16:12

Thanks again for your reply - I'm probably a bit more apprehensive about everything as well because this if my first baby.

I do realise you don't give birth surrounded by 14 other mums! But I guess I'm just quite a private person... I don't like the idea of having strangers around me when I will probably look awful and be totally exhausted, but that's just me. And although I would consider paying the £250 or whatever it is for the private room, I don't really feel I should have to. But we'll see what happens, I might not have a choice where to go in the end, although so far everything seems to be going fine with the pregnancy.

I'll definitely point out the mistakes in my maternity records at my next appointment, and hopefully the care will improve as I gets closer to the birth!

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PanicMode · 25/01/2010 19:33

Completely understand the privacy thing as I was the same with my first (bit more blase now this is number 4!) - but almost everyone else will be looking terrible and will also be exhausted and worrying about their new baby and staring at their wondeful new bundles - they really won't be noticing/judging/worrying about anything else. Or maybe that was just me .

Hope that you start feeling a bit more nurtured and can enjoy the rest of the pregnancy without worrying about the end bit!

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Sabineba · 27/01/2010 11:18

Thanks for the encouragement! You're right, I'll probably have more important things to worry about about than how I look after the birth... I just don't like hospitals, and the one time I've had to go so far in my life I was in a room with one other woman, and that was bad enough!

Respect for having your fourth, by the way - it can't be all that bad then I guess! ;-)

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PanicMode · 27/01/2010 12:19

Oh, once they arrive you have a whole new set of problems to worry about ;0)!

Best of luck with it all anyway.

mopsera · 25/04/2010 13:56

hi im starting a bumps and babes group see thread..cheers/. rachel

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