hi again - so Stirling - its good I think overall in the general scheme of things - you do hear some horrible stories on here about other places, but I did have problems with it too.
The actual labour bit I couldnt really fault - lovely midwives and I felt in control most of the time etc. Once I got to the ward - I found it a bit tougher.
I think it totally depends on whether you plan to breastfeed or not. I was absolutely sure I wanted to, but things didnt start off just as easily as I would have thought. I know they have a certificate to say they are breast feeding friendly, but really, if I hadnt been determined, I would almost certianly have given up.
Every midwife had a different answer to the problem - and they do tend to be very hands on - shoving the breast into the babies mouth. Ds was just not interested for the first two days. I got told my nipples were too small, ds had a short tongue, then a misaligned jaw, then I was anaemic etc etc - its just seemed to be one problem after another and when you are already emotional after the birth, it can be a bit hard to take that you are failing in the one thing that I assumed, maybe naively, would come naturally.
At one point I was ready to get my rope and make my escape out the window. They pressured me into giving him formula, and after speaking to my dad (GP) decided that at least if he put on weight with it, he would be allowed to go home, and we could then get on with it in peace.
So the long and short of it was - gave birth on the tuesday night - didnt get home till the Saturday and I had to fight for that, but overall I do have good memories of the whole thing, and the chat in the ward was nice. I felt like an old hand by the Saturday as the others were constantly changing.
I apoplogise for this turning into an extremely long post - you can evict me from the thread for being too long winded if you want, but that was quite cathartic. And dont want to put you off Stirling by any means - as I say I think overall its a really good place to go - just remember though if you do want to bf - be determined and dont worry if your baby doesnt take to it in the first few days - they will catch on eventually.