Mums with so-called "high-needs" babies in the Harrogate area - where are you all? Do you exist?

[Babyisaac]

I'd love to know. My 4 mo DS screams a lot for no apparent reason, gets bored v easily, hates being put down and wakes frequently in the night. I seem to be the only mum in the postnatal groups who has a difficult baby like this. Is there anyone else out there like this?!

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Thanks YP. It's just so isolating when the only other mums seem to be on here. Have asked my HV to look around and see if she can find me a "buddy" in a similar situation!

Hi, just read your post and i completely understand how you feel. My DD must have cried for the 1st 4months of her life. Shes now 8months old and is a joy to be around. I couldnt take her any where without her showing me up! Shes my third child but my 1st girl and what a shock to the system she was! Mum and toddler groups were a nitemare we only ever stayed for half an hour at a time!(she sat for the full two hours 3weeks ago and i was really pleased with her). I found classes like babysigning really useful because shed just sit and watch and it was the only time she didnt cry and create, swimming was good too. I look back now and think she was just bored and tierd of looking at me alday and she was just really difficult to please(bit like her mother!!)xx

Hello!
I don't know how you define "high needs" but I have had MAJOR tutting from my mum about how none of her 4 dc's were anything like as hard work as my 3.5mo DS

"why won't he sleep in his pram"
"why won't he sleep in his cot"
"why can't you put him down, he needs to rest his back"
"he's crying again, he must be hungry"
"babies should be left alone for quiet time, not constantly held"
"WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOUR DS???"

For the record my DS is beautiful, alert, likes stimulation, a bit small but growing fine, just likes to be close to his mummy (breastfeeds little and often, and comfort-sucks a lot) and gets ever so slightly grouchy when overtired

Have you tried carrying him in a sling? My DS loves his sling as he can be close to me and also see what's going on and I can do things (like housework, going for walk etc - yesterday we went to the pub!) that are interesting for him to watch while wearing him.

He has actually got a bit better lately, which might or might not be due to the sling. Who knows.

Know what you mean about other babies in the post natal group, but I get the feeling that most mums with high needs babies somehow feel they can't take their DCs out so don't attend these groups unless baby sleeping soundly in car seat!!! so don't worry I am sure you are not as alone as you think!

Hi
i have a 2 and a half year old beautiful daughter who has been classic high need (as described in the Sears books) from the beginning. She still requires intensive input to help keep her on an even keel but is blossoming gradually into a lovely little girl.
i know what you mean about feeling your baby is differnt from everyone else's, yes it can feel like that.]
and i would second the sling thing.- they are a godsend.
I can be found at various parent/baby/toddler groups round Harrogate if you want any recommending, and at breastfeeding groups (not sure if you are bf but if so, you may find it useful to come and share tips for dealing with high need baby).
Hope this helps
L
x

Hi mummyshambles, good to know your DD is blossoming! When did the crying ease off?!

He is now 6 months and is getting into more of a routine with sleep. But he really plays up to me and some days I've no idea what to do with him to stop the crying

Would love it if you could recommend some baby groups - I actually live in Knaresborough but there are so few around here. I didn't know there was a breastfeeding group - would be very interested to find out about it as I am bf (it keeps DS quiet for a short time!) We're weaning at the moment but that's not going so well.

Thanks in advance x

Hi there!
Am really hoping you pop back as have only just spotted your thread.
I believe my ds was/is a high needs baby. I was living in London last April but have since moved back to Harrogate and would love to meet up.
Ds is now 14 months old - I completely adore him but have had quite a first year of parenting!! Have really had to fight my corner with the choices I have made (still bf-ing, co-sleeping, napped on me until recently)
Anyhoo hope all is well and your ds is not crying so much

My ds is not soooo difficult but my dd was an utter nightmare but is amazing now and was from the moment we weaned her..... just not a milky baby!!! What groups are people going to ..... i am looking for nice but free things to do in the Harrogate area!!