Disrespectful child

[SamanthaAnn]

Does anyone else have a very disrespectful child? If so how do you deal with them. My daughters 7, 8 in May shes very disrespectful to me but she respects other people. Ive tried everything to get to gain respect for me but nothing seems to work. She says she shouldnt respect me because i dont respect her wishes... but her wishes are for me not to send her to school. So because i dont listen to her when she tells me she wants a day of or i dont listen to her orders when she trys to order me around, shes being very disrespectful all the time. Ive tried giving her warnings, taking her fav things away an grounded her an many other things..
Any suggestions on what else i can try please

You've mentioned 'respect' and 'being disrespectful' a lot of times in what you've written. It seems a slightly strange term to use about a 7yr old.
There's lots of things to unpick - what do you mean by 'disrespectful? What is it she is doing ?

Lots of children's behaviour can be worse at home. They have to really 'concentrate' or 'focus' on doing the right things when they are at school and then they 'relax' when they get home, as sub-consciously they know you love them unreservedly, and we, as parents, tend to get the brunt of the bad behaviour. We also get them when they are tired, and tired often equals grumpy.

In terms of what you can do, it's really easy to get into a cycle of negativity when they are going through a challenging time.
Try to consciously go out of your way to
a) deal with the behaviour and let them know it is the behaviour and not the person that you don't like
b) try to seek out 3 x as many opportunities to praise them / say something nice / say something positive..... thank them for doing the right thing / notice when they 'don't do' whatever it is they often do that you don't like. We sometimes call it "catching them being good"