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Struggling to break into the mums set

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Sunnydays1980 · 21/09/2017 12:29

Hi ladies, I am mum to a 2 year old and 6 month old baby and have to admit that I am finding the whole mum life thing really hard. I never went back to work and am a stay at home mum, but am struggling to break into the whole mums set. Although I have a few mum friends, I don't have a group of mums to just call and ask whether they're free this day or that which is really useful when you don't know what sort of day you're going to have with the children. It would make things so much better and easier if I did as it's difficult enough to try and find things to entertain both children and my son, who is very shy would really really benefit from being around and seeing other children of a similar frequently. I do go to loads of playgroups and groups with the baby and have done since my son was a baby but guess I haven't met any other mums in the same boat as me. Am wondering whether I am alone in feeling this way or whether to just roll with it....

Interested to know other people's thoughts? do they find it hard to break into the mum circles, meet other like minded mums,

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LittleL232 · 21/09/2017 12:42

You're totally not alone. I'm a SAHM to a 20-month-old and we go to lots of playgroups and baby orientated type stuff, and although I talk to Mum's everywhere we go, I've never really properly met anyone new through doing so. All my mum friends are people I knew before, or through antenatal class and they've mostly all gone back to work full-time now so I understand how you feel.

Mrsdraper1 · 21/09/2017 12:51

I was in the same boat when my eldest was born.
I was a member of a rival parenting website at the time and I put an ad on their meet a mum page and basically laid it on the line that I was struggling and wanted a mum friend to hang about with.
I made 2 really good friends that way.
We have drifted apart a bit now as although we were local we were in different areas for schools and stuff and you don't have as much time once school starts but we had some real laughs and kept each other sane for years.
give it a try
x

Sunnydays1980 · 21/09/2017 16:11

Thanks so much for your replies! I think it's just hard to a)meet other mums who are SAHMs and b) actually connect with them/ have the kids connect. Well, will stick at it and keep going. Was hoping to meet some other mums with babies for me and daughter to hang out with and that hasn't happened yet....

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chainedtothedesk · 22/09/2017 03:15

Keep trying. Friendships don't tend to happen overnight. Keep up with the groups and keep a smile on your face if you can! Swap numbers with other mums or suggest a coffee somewhere. Sometimes you just need to put yourself 'out there'.

loz12345 · 27/09/2017 18:35

Where are you based ???? I found that some of the friends I made online were the ones I am still friends with 7 years on from my first although I now have a 3 month old and have so far avoided baby groups etc but must start as I am the only one of my friends who has a baby good luck

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