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AIBU about sisters charity choice?

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lunamum · 20/05/2017 23:40

My 2 sisters and i have entered the London marathon next year.
I have a DD who is Type 1 diabetic diagnosed at 4 and it is now 10. Having this condition is extremely hard for all of us and the constant 24 hour worry is always present. I will be running for JDWF with the support of my older sister. My younger sister, however has opted for NSPCC. Given that none of their children have any health problems at all I feel very hurt and increasingly angry. What should I do?

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Heratnumber7 · 20/05/2017 23:46

Why would you do anything? You run for your charity, she for hers.

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lunamum · 20/05/2017 23:56

Yeah you're right. She just isn't a kind person.

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SuburbanRhonda · 20/05/2017 23:58

You don't sound great either, tbh.

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lunamum · 21/05/2017 00:05

unless you have a diabetic child with chronic illness you wouldn't understand.

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twattymctwatterson · 21/05/2017 00:20

So you think you should be able to dictate what charity your sister runs for?

MumIsRunningAMarathon · 21/05/2017 00:26

You don't just get to choose though.... your application will be considered by the charity. There call wether they accept you or not

So have you been accepted? Maybe your sister wasn't.....

Heratnumber7 · 21/05/2017 00:29

I didn't say she isn't kind

MumIsRunningAMarathon · 21/05/2017 00:30

Also. Between the 3 of you running for one organisation it will be six thousand pounds minimum that you will need to raise!!!

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lunamum · 21/05/2017 00:32

Thanks MumisRunningAMarathon that might explain it. x

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VimFuego101 · 21/05/2017 00:36

YABU. The NSPCC is just as worthy a cause as the one you're running for.

RebelRogue · 21/05/2017 00:52

Her children might not be ill but maybe she knows kids that are abused or neglected. Or maybe she just cares about them. I can't believe you're angry that your sis is doing something nice,because she's not doing it for you.

SmallBee · 21/05/2017 08:57

Have you tried asking her why? Otherwise your angry will keep simmering away unanswered.

Feyenoord · 21/05/2017 09:06

I am a type 1 diabetic and I support different causes, also one that has nothing to do with me but that I find important. She chooses one of the causes close to her heart. There is nothing wrong with that, your anger is unreasonable. I would love the different diabetes charities to collect a lot of money but that is for my own good and not a real charitable thought.

If people would only collect for the charity that supports their own illness then we will get nowhere.

3countyboundaries · 21/05/2017 09:52

OP, I think that you are over-thinking things here. You seem to be interpreting your sister's choice of charity as some kind of personal snub, when it most probably is nothing of the sort.

GU24Mum · 21/05/2017 09:53

Honestly, yes, YABU. There's a charity which is really close to your heart but your sister is her own person and just because she doesn't give 100% of her charitable giving to that charity, doesn't make her in any way a bad person. There are lots of very good charities and it's up to each of us (or the practicalities of getting a marathon place) to decode which, if any, to support.

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