Hi ladies
My DD is in year 2 and is a bit of a tomboy and is very sociable in general. There are only 4 other girls (who are less tomboy but more girly) in her class and they have started to form couples, so I am afraid she will be lonely as she grows. In the same time she's too shy to play with girls from the other/parallel class, and there are also not so many.
She is happy to play and be silly with the boys, of course, but they don't always include her and have their own interests, what, I think will only get worse further, as they are growing.
I feel like I need to act now, may be transfer her to another scholo, but it's really hard to make a decision, as she would be very upset to leave this school. The school is very good academically, it's a small, family-like private school. Have to say, we are not particularly included in this private school life and although do have some playdates and very "polite relationship" with everyone, I do feel separated. Possibly , due to the fact that we are the only international family in our class. The school is not very diverse in general.
Forgot to mention she is also the youngest, summer child , and three of the other girls are autumn, therefore more mature.
All this is very difficult for us, and I am also waiting for another child, so worry is becoming a part of my pregnancy :(. We are making every effort to help her to settle, including therapists etc.. She continues to say they dont play with her and she is "afraid to loose all her friends" etc. :(( I know she likes being silly and is not emotionally mature in games yet, but what can I do, if that's her character at the moment.
What do you think, would she become more settled and confident with time with the other girls in her school, or would the girls "couple" and exclude her even more with time? Only 5 girls, why can't they all be close friends without excluding anyone?
What about age difference, does this eliminate with time, especially in small classes (there are 14 children now)?
I am terrified of moving her in another school, as she already started to feel insecure, although has always been quite socially confident.