i seen this post in another part of mumsnet
Hello - I'm writing a feature for The Independent Saturday Magazine about the tricksy issue of drinking alcohol in the day when you're a parent. I've got a one year old, and have suddenly noticed lots of mothers, all across the social spectrum, who like to (or need to) have a drink at lunchtime to get through the day...or who can't wait until the kids go to bed to get started on a glass of wine. Does this apply to you? I'd love to hear your opinions and stories which can be anonymous. Contact: [email protected]
my reply
no it doesnt apply to me but i know first hand the damage of drinking mothers can do, my mother liked drinking unfortuatly way to much and i dont agree with people drinking, im 22 and i know most people my age drink on a reglar basis but i go out maybe 2 times a year, and thats partially because of the damage my mother created with drinking, and unfortunatly she no longers gets to see my children or me or my brothers, and this is all cause she drinks, she has destroyed her life through alcohol. and i pity her for that. there is more to life than drinking, she was a great mum before she started drinking but it changed her, changed her mood, changed her from the person i knew.
all she needs to do is stop drinking now and her life would slowly come back together but she cant manage that.
i dont think any parent should be drinking when in charge of a child!
anything could happen and they could need you even once they are in bed the could take ill and your drunk ?!
its just wrong!
and drinking during lunchtime? thats worse your going to pick your child up after drinking (presuming they are at school)
ONE IS TOO MANY, 5 IS NOT ENOUGH!
people with drinking problems doesnt mean they drink all of the time like alcoholics, even "needing" a glass of wine at lunch time is an issue
people need to learn
TO PUT THEIR KIDS FIRST!
THEY DIDNT ASK TO BE BORN!
YOU CHOSE TO HAVE THEM!
SO GIVE THEM THE CHANCES IN LIFE AND THE PARENTS THAT THEY DESERVE!
sorry for the rant, just something very close to my heart, if i can help you from the other side, being the child please let me know. nikita
(i will also e-mail this to you)
another members post
I can honestly say that I don't know any mothers who drink at lunchtime except possibly on special occasions.
Are you really suddenly aware of these mothers or am I living in a bubble?
another members post
Mummy03, sorry I have to disagree. I enjoy good wine. I don't drink to get drunk. It is sociable and as an adult I can drink responsibly.
I rarely drink at lunchtime. Maybe with Sunday lunch or special occasion. Next week i will go out for my birthday, I will have a glass of wine.
Sorry you had such a bad experience with your mother but I am a good parent.
MY post
tbh im saddened that you think its okay to drink while your in charge of your children
would you get in a car and drive?
because if you wouldnt do that then surely your children should be more important?
fair enough drinking during lunch if you dont have your children at all that day or if you have another adult to look after them
but i hope for your sake you dont slip down the slop alot of parents do but more for your childrens sake as its so easy as i seen.
uraprune - yes unfortunatley there are mothers that think this is acceptable
and sailorsgirl - im not saying this to directly have a go at you, as you can see my inital post is about my mother.
and the comments on this post is not ment in a malicious way...i just hope you think about it.
just wondered what your thoughts were on this?