odile I'm a Londoner and when we started our search we were looking along the south coast between Brighton and Hastings. I was dead set against Eastbourne as as far as I knew it was full of old people. (So therefore boring, conservative and uncool). I much preferred the idea of Brighton. I had never actually visited Eastbourne however! This was pure prejudice!
When we first started house-hunting I said I didn't want to live in Eastbourne as it had no theatres
(I think there are actually about 4). DP now takes great pleasure in pointing out the road sign to "Theatres" (with the emphasis on the "s") every time we go past it!
My DP is from Scotland and so hasn't got Londoners' prejudices and he suggested we look there.
Yes, there are quite a few old people there, but do you know why they are there? Because it's really nice!
There are also lots of families with young children, and loads to do for kids, especially as it's a holiday destination in the summer. My favourite right now is the Miniature Steam Railway
Eastbourne is never going to be as cool as Brighton, or London. (It has only 3 clubs I think, and they're not exactly what you would call cutting edge!)
But it's not trying to be cool, and that's actually part of its charm IMO. Eastbourne is really pretty. It has nice parks, friendly people, good pubs (the kind that have nice food, welcome children and are in beautiful buildings - rather than somewhere you'll find the latest music). Eastbourne is a town, rather than a city. I can see both the sea and the South Downs from my windows. The town is big enough that I can get everything I need in town, but small enough that I can be in the countryside in minutes.
If I was child-free in my 20s, then Brighton would be the place for me. And Brighton is the natural place for many Londoners to move, as it is in many ways London-by-sea. But why do I need to live near cool bars and clubs that open all night?! I don't actually go to them any more, I'm home with DS and DP!
We also get a much better quality of life in Eastbourne than London. Eastbourne has lots of large, beautiful houses, which are a whole lot cheaper than London.
We haven't bought here yet - we're letting the flat we own in London, and renting down here while we get to know the area. We have rented a beautiful, huge 4 bed flat here for the same price as our cramped 1 bed flat in London!
HTH