Ireland to UK

[jmacon]

I am English but have lived in Ireland all my adult life . Have 4 dcs and Irish DP, who is currently unemployed. Have no family over here and am just pissed off with it all.His family are all no good and I just want to be near my mum and dad. Have a sister in UK also. I am constantly stressed to bits as himself wouldnt be the best for helping around the house and feel like I'm not doing the best for kids. Am loathe to move them as we have lived in four private rentals before getting our council house, but then again sooner would be better than later. I know there is a recession in UK but it couldnt be worse than the mess our government has made of Ireland.
The area my parents live in has great schools, lots to do and is fairly affluent there fore still plenty of jobs etc,and my mother would help out with minding etc so I would be able to get back to college(I had to turn down a great college place over here). OH says he wouldnt live in UK with kids because he lived in a very rough part of London for a few years as a young man. But TBH I'm past caring what he says. I love him deeply but he has created so much stress for our family with his various issues that if I decided it was right to move I would do it with or without him.
Another thing is that it is very safe here in Ireland ,all I ever see on Sky UK is shootings, stabbings, baby p type tragedies and it does worry me! What is it like to rear kids in UK now? Would be living home counties.
Any how, I've rambled on enough. What do ye think? Any one made the move back? I would feel more Irish than English these days so how did any others settle in UK? Thanks

Anyone!

Jmacon TBH the vast majority of what's in the news in not common or normal life for most people living in the UK!

It sounds like you have made up your mind,you sound very unhappy in Ireland so a move would certainly benefit you. Tell your DH London has changed hugely over the last 15 years, the areas that used to be 'rough' are usually now considered desirable areas now!

I lived in London for 7 years (just moved back home to scotland) and honestly I was never the victim nor did I witness a crime,although there was plenty. I was just careful about keeping my hand bag close to me etc and where I go at night. Common sense really.

You will probably have to go back into a private rental again before you put your name on the council list ( and could be many many years before you get a house) the good thing is that private rentals are becoming cheaper due to economic situation.

I would certainly try to move near to your parents, especially if there willing to help out I'm sure it will help you all settle in quicker when there are familiar faces around.

Schools: The great schools will be very over subscribed and it will be very competitive. The best way to ensure entry is to live as close to the school as possible (there are always plenty of private rentals near good schools) and will be much easier if they aren't going into reception or senior school.If you don't get into your first choice you can go on the waiting list. Each authority has different requirements so I would look at there website.

I would say the best way to go about it would be to find Jobs first then you will know what you can afford for the rental, from there you can find a school.

How do you think you kids will take the move?