Husband has been offered dream job on the other side of the world...

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Dh has been offered his dream job and he is really excited problem is it is in OZ and we are in UK. He is really keen to move and take the job and I have thought and thought about it but just feel that this is not the right time for me, I have a 13 month old baby and would like to have my 2nd fairly soon, but just don't really want to do this on my way on the otehr side of the world. I'm really close to my family and would like to be near them when I have our next baby. I just feel so awful if I stop DH taking the job just because I want to stay near my family - any advice, should I just go and hope it's ok or trust my instinct and say 'No'?!

I wouldn't go. To me, my family is more than our nuclear family of me, dh and dcs, but is also the extended family. I cannot imagine living so far away from them, because of how it would effect all of us. But then I am not very imaginative, nor particularly adventurous.

The problem with waiting 10 years is that your existing dc will be at a pretty bad age for wholesale relocation I would have thought.

I moved back to the UK because we wanted to start a family. Now, I'd up sticks again, but not permanently - I'd do two years max, but would always come home.

Is there any possibility of you and DH agreeing a trial period and then you coming home if it doesn't work. My DH loved living and working in the Sates but he was a star and agreed to come home for the above reason and also because I was so homesick.

You need to work as a team and figure out what is best for you all.

What's that noise like a sonic boom? It's Iklboo off to Oz.
But that's me, personally. I'm not particularly close to my family and nor is Dh to his.
Think you're going to have to have a long hard think and a longer discussion with DH

My BIL is Australian, and has wanted to go home for years, but my sister is very happy here, with lots of friends and a good career. She is not keen on moving over there (she spent two years in Aus before they got married, and prefers the UK). I would not want to do the baby years away from home, although yes it can be a good way to make connections, but it can also be a very socially isolating time if you don't know anyone and your husband is working hard. We went to the States six months ago, and with a just turned eight year old and a nine year old it has not been a problem, indeed we are just about to do it again, so there is plenty of time in the future. Lots of people do get very homesick and go home, so you have to bear that in mind.

I'd go and try it
Nothing ventured nothing gained
If you dont settle come home
If not can my dp have your job please cos you'd not see us for dust!

Australia is a great place to have a baby and to raise children generally. There are plenty of Uk and other expats out here. I have two close girlfriends who are irish and another who is american and they take regular trips back to their home country and have their very excited families out to visit and they help each other out to make up for the lack of family here. I myself am married to a German and I did try Germany out for a couple of years but neither of us enjoyed it, and in marrying him I knew that we would have to forgo other things to afford regular trips back to Germany and to finance visits from his family - it is just part of the deal. Give it a shot - can I just also add that it is Spring here and the weather is so fabulous that I am having a wonderful time taking my 3 DC's to the beach and to parks.

your predicament has struck a nerve with me as my hubbie has been offered a job in California. I would love to go but am afraid that me and my 3 year old will be lonely. I really don't want to leave behind my friends and family in Scotland but feel that it would be a wasted opportunity not to go. Hope Californians are friendly .
Good luck with your decision.

You need to talk to califrau - she seems to love CA.