Partner moving to Saudi Arabia- question about porn and WhatsApp

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Hello! I am really in need of some solid advice. I can’t find a definite answer on google and I feel like my partner is ignorant about the rules of Saudi.

He is leaving soon to work on the line.

I have a million concerns but one that is worrying me is that he was outright told no pornography allowed. He is of course willing to adhere to these rules. However, he is part of a few groups chats with friends who send the most horrific/ stupid/ disgusting stuff. Sometimes he says he doesn’t even read the conversations because they send/ talk rubbish etc. But he will not leave the groups as it’s the only way to be involved, stay in the loop, connect with his friends. I do understand that.

My concern is that while in Saudi Arabia, these things are not allowed to be possessed at all. He seems to think that if he deletes it, it is fine. I told him he should really leave the group chats.

Does anyone have any experience of this who can please help me? Hate to think of him getting in serious trouble for anything let alone something so stupid.

I think op he needs to be a bit more savvy even in this country. Sharing videos etc of people having sex that are circulating who you don't know can very easily translate into possession and distribution of illegal images of children. There was a case recently where I am where a young woman was heavily intoxicated and raped in a very public place and people videoed it and posted online and circulated exactly as you describe not realising that she was a minor and they'd generated a child abuse image. If your partners friends are sending this type of content he needs to leave the WhatsApp group and you are not being ridiculous.

I think if you give him the advice you've done all you can as he's an adult and to be honest he's clearly okay with what he's receiving if he's staying in the group or he'd already have left off his own bat.

I would think seriously about how it would affect you if he gets caught out and loses his job or worse and plan accordingly as it doesn't sound like he's taking you seriously.

Your boyfriend is disgusting I can't believe you tolerate this, as men being men !

Pp is right .he probably has illegal immoral stuff on his phone already men like them become desensitised to images, and other people in their lives don't care !

If he's still in any doubt, there's plenty of evidence that Meta give access to governments especially in that area of the world.

Usually nothing happens with porn infringements, until they take interest in him for something else....

Mumsnet is really rotten at times. People are really taking this and running aren't they

Hmmm he sounds lovely 😳

Saudi as well as other ME countries monitor social media channels. Certain words or phrases may be flagged. It's always best to err on the side of caution with these countries because as a foreigner you can be subject to strict penalties. While these things rarely happen they can. Certain websites are also blocked.

This ^

@MummytoE i know, thank you. I have had some helpful advice but also found out that I’m controlling my partner who is a pedophile 😄

No one has said he's a pedophile, as far as I can see.

I think quite a few posters would be surprised if they actually went through their partners phone😂

Exactly this. And frankly, if he falls foul of Saudi obscenity laws, he doesn't sound like much of a loss.

He should definitely leave the chats. He is a man-child but so are lots of people who end up in trouble in places like Saudi. Even people who don't have the wit to check these things don't deserve to be in prison or whatever in Saudi Arabia over a stupid (and really stupid in his case) group chat

Jk987 alluded to this

Well, maybe if the OP's boyfriend ends up falling foul of Saudi law, his friends can enjoy circulating a video of him having sex with a Saudi prison guard.

Not funny? In bad taste? Absolutely. But he and his friends are obviously fine with this kind of thing.

Get him to explain to the friends, start another group chat and use that for socialising and then any inappropriate videos etc are sent on the original one. If they're close enough friends for him to want to stay in touch it shouldn't be an issue.

Nobody said either of those things they just pointed out how horrific he is. Looking at horrible images but hey the op is "cool" about it.

Posters have alluded to this because quite often women in viral clips may be minors, and there is no way to tell, even if the boyfriend has nobly decided to only watch adults.

Not that the Saudi religious police may care. I expect any sexual clips would be considered porn.

I think you have a bigger problem in that he's part of a group of creeps and perverts.

Earn your own money and do not depend on this vile piece of shit (I cannot imagine why else you'd stay with someone like that).

He (and you), need to choose better company

I remember a friend of mine was detained by Saudi immigration because he had a copy of the book " Kiss of the Spider Woman". It was considered porn. This was a while ago. Eventually they just confiscated it but it could have gone the other way.

This is how stupid people end up in horrific prisons in Saudi Arabia.
I've seen it time and time again. My sister lived there for 10 years.
Leave the chat or don't go to Saudi. He needs to inform these "friends" this is why he is leaving the chat until he gets home.

Even if he leaves the group it’ll be in his phone’s history.

Yes he should leave the group, Saudi or no Saudi. He obviously likes that kind of content or he would already have left the group. He's gross, and yes, it could get him in trouble in Saudi.

You know if you have awful friends who send you horrific clips that you can both delete the clips and leave that chat don't you?
I doubt your BF is the innocent you claim he is
As for Saudi his employer should provide cultural training of some sort