Noise and the UK

[Strugglewithnoise]

Hello,

I want to move back to the UK for family and because i feel like it has a lot to offer.

I remember how irritating I found neighbour noise in the UK, talking, music, shouting etc. I felt like I could never really get respite from people and relax. I suspect that I may have misophonia.

Is it safe to assume that I can never really move back home?

A regular detached wouldn't really suffice, i'd need a house with enough land to be unaffected but really the prices for those in the UK are very high.

Any suggestions or should I just accept that the UK fundamentally won't suit me?

Respect …. Simple
Severely lacking in UK anymore 🥺

The problem with people suggesting OP buys a rural property is that it would be just her luck the farm next door then put a herd of cows in the field next to her and disturbed her coming to move them to the milking shed twice a day.

where i live in yorkshire in a suburban street in a large village, there is not a sound. odd car going by and it is a detached house, but no land as such just a small garden.

mind you that bloody clock ticking can just do one.

Thank you, very good tip!

It's so sad. I wonder why there is such a lack of respect.

No doubt that'd be my luck. 😂

Don't think i'd mind the cows but i think i'd get a loud farmer.

It is …🥺 it never used to be like that.
It is quite toxic and angry now

It’s clearly going to depend on the area you live in. I’m in the U.K. (south east) and our street is really quiet. Listening out now with the window open and all I can hear is birds tweeting and a very distant car. We have the window open all night in the summer and we barely hear anything (other than foxes!!). You’d have to get a good feel for the area before you move.

Don't ever move to Spain, OP, noisiest people ever.... but very friendly though!

It's a difficult one. I want to move back for family but there's just a lot that I don't like about the country (and stuff that I do too) so it's just hard to know if it'd the right thing to do.

I have a french cousin who remarks on how much louder brits are. It’s an especially stark difference in restaurants. It’s not uncommon for people to talk in whispers in french restaurants. Whereas here, especially after a couple of drinks …

I think you're right tbh. I lived in HK for 13 years. There, the attitude is very much "I live in an apartment so I need to keep the noise down/ be considerate" - the shoes off thing is as much about noise as about hygiene. Here (as evidenced by many threads on here) it's more "if you want quiet, go live on a desert island", ignoring the fact that for most people that's not an option and that apartments or terraced houses are just life for a lot of people so why not all be considerate and make life easier/ nicer for each other?

That said, where I live is v quiet (town in SW) but I rarely take public transport due to phone wankers (rather drive to London and suck up the parking/CC) and am often astounded by people letting DC listen to phones without headphones in restaurants as so difficult to zone that out. I try to make sure I tell v inappropriate jokes in earshot of their little darlings when that happens.

I'm in south in country :) very quiet, neighbours all retired so quiet :) city or outskirt towns not so much. I like peace so followed a Trainline/bus route lines to find somewhere easy access to jobs but still in a rural setting

I accept it may well be generally true, but I'm in the South West and don't experience rude, loud, anti-social people regularly. I'm very sensitive too, for what it's worth.

oops thought this was a recent post - sorry!