Wanting to move to my homeland and separate from my husband there

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I live in my husbands country and I don’t like it. Our relationship is very broken and I’m really worried to be stuck forever here if we separate. His country is protected by The Hague convention which means he has all the power.

Anyone gone through this?

You have children I assume and that's what's bothering you. How old are they?

@FortunesFave yes, i have a child (3 years old) and I just want to feel at ease. The relationship can stop at anytime. I just want to feel safe and not to have to spend the rest of my life abroad in a 15m2 in a cold country.

What do you want people to tell you? You know you can't just move back to your 'homeland' with the child without his permission. It's one of those things that goes with a relationship like this - I also live in another country to my native one and have kids but well, them's the breaks, I have to stay here no matter what unless he consented (luckily I don't mind it here and we're not splitting up).

Being part of The Hague convention doesn't give him more rights, but equal rights. The child is a citizen of the country they are born and have been brought up in. Best thing you can do is try to work out how to make things better for you, and leave, with visitation/ custody split in a way that least impacts and most benefits the child. Can you get a job? I assume they are in or soon will be in nursery? Start building your independence and work with where you are. Yes it sucks not being able to go home (expat here also 'stuck' ina country I'd rather not be in), but unfortunately, that's always the potential situation when you have a child born in a country that you've moved to