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RedJeans · 30/09/2019 14:50

Hello,

My DH and I are currently living in an Asian country with my job, 1 year into a 2 year contract which finishes next September. Before we moved here we were told by my company that there would be good job prospects for him but unfortunately there was a change in government just before we moved and a restriction in the number of expat visas, meaning that he hasn't been able to find any long term work Sad he's been very stoical about this so far but in the last few weeks he's been really down about it. I'm starting to think that he might be happier living at home back in the UK for part of the year to work and be with friends and family, not the whole year but perhaps for a few weeks before and after Christmas and then going home a couple of months early in the summer after a big trip to India that we have planned in early June. Has anybody done something similar and how was it?? We don't have any kids so I would be here on my own but I have a good group of friends who would be very supportive of me here. Ideally he'd volunteer etc here but he's reluctant to which is a whole other story Hmm

Thank you in advance for any advice/shared experiences Flowers

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zafferana · 05/10/2019 15:08

Why doesn't he want to volunteer - surely that would be better than sitting around alone at home? I don't really understand his attitude tbh. When I was living OS with my DH and couldn't work I did whatever I could to keep busy and connect with others inc. studying and volunteering and it was fun. Does he want to return to the UK?

macshoto · 06/10/2019 18:10

My wife moved back to the UK from Asia about 14 months before I returned. We'd found a house we liked and bought it so she moved back to take care of that.

It's doable, but certainly not easy. Easier for us as our relationship started long distance from the UK to the country we were in and therefore we could go back to a routine that had worked before we were married.

She had found finding work difficult and the volunteering, after a time, was no longer fulfilling - so returning home was the right answer.

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