Depression?

[RitaSt]

Hi everyone,

I've been living in Germany for two years. My DH is German and we have a good life here. However, I've been feeling so down recently. There is nothing that makes me want to learn German, and I'm sorry to say but I'm not passionate about Germany at all. (Culture and language.)
I just want to move back to the UK.
My DH said there is no choice to move to the UK because of Brexit.

Do I have depression? I just don't know what to do. Would love to hear from anyone who has been in this situation.

Could it be the area where you are? I imagine life in Berlin would be very different from life in the Schwartzwald, for example.

I've not been in that situation but I do have a friend who has to live abroad due to her husband's work. She makes a pledge to herself to learn the language, get a job and make three friends within the first year so that she has at least a foothold in the local community.

Maybe you need a trip home to UK or to meet a few ex-pats just so you can indulge your immediate need for more Englishness around you. I have no idea if Brexit truly would prevent you from moving back here, but if it did, there's nothing to stop you having long, frequent holidays and trips back to UK. We're only a couple of hours away by plane.

There must be some things you like about Germany (your DH for a start ?) Good coffee? Great cakes? Brilliant literature? Expressionist art? Lieder? Clean trains that run on time? Onion rye bread? Gluhwein? The pretty Schlossen on the Rhein? I know these are all touristy things but even making a list f some small things you like might help.

Thank you for the response. I really appreciate you taking the time to write all that

I lived overseas for two years. In my second year I went to the doctor to ask for antidepressants because I was so miserable. They didn’t give me any, and they were right to. From the moment I found out we were coming home it lifted. I wasn’t depressed, I was very, very unhappy. There is a big difference.

Probably you are homesick rather than depressed. I also live overseas - it's not my ideal situation but we are here for a reason. I get very homesick but I try to list the positives: the weather is better, my children go to a great school and speak two languages, I've met some interesting people and made some friends.
I really miss home. I miss my friends and family, I miss my ties and miss the UK in general. But we are leaving in 2 more years. For you it's harder as you have no end date - can you chat to your DH about having a few years back in the UK once Brexit has settled ? Tell him how are you are feeling. In the meantime list the positives and try and remember what you are doing there.