Dealing with things at home moving on

[Snitchesgetcandy]

Hi, I moved abroad to live with DH 4 months ago now. I did have another thread at the time. So far I’ve made a couple of aquatinces but no real friendships. We live rurally and my work doesn’t really involve many other people so I’m struggling. What’s really getting to me is that I see friends back home doing things, making plans etc. And I feel left behind and as though loosing touch is inevitable, I’ve never been the type to really call people always text or see in person so I now feel people would find it odd if I tried to call and wouldn’t know what to say. I’m not really sure why I’m posting just wondering if anybody has been through this or has any tips

Sorry that your post has gone unanswered.

Not sure quite what the answer is... when I was abroad I found the best thing was to find things to do for myself. Even when friendships weren't really happening, just get involved in anything - weekends away, new hobbies, online courses, library with a book and a coffee, swimaerobics. Anything so that you aren't stagnating far away from home.

I read that six months is peak time for hard-hitting homesickness and found that to be very true, so you probably have that brewing. 9-12 months was light at the end of the tunnel time, and about 14 months it really started to improve.

Is this move permanent?