Moving back to Oxford

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DH has been rumbling about it since the summer and I've been deliberately ignoring him. Largely because I NEED to be fully invested to engage in living while I'm here.
The first year has been hard, and the kids have struggled to assimilate in school and now DH tells me we should go home next summer. The option was 2 or 3 years, but I always hoped we'd make it 3.

Anyway, our DD (14) will need to go back into Yr11, and our DS (12) will move back into Yr9. Based on where we're 'at' now the kids will be pleased. The kids had much more independence in our little town outside of Oxford before we moved here, and, although we live in a beautiful, massive house now we have to drive everywhere and they hate it. Although I believe this would get better this year since we're better prepared for the winter.

I'm disappointed. I really thought we'd have another year. We're not going to unsettle the kids yet and tell them til next Spring. However, now I'm thinking school, GCSE's, tutoring, renting in Oxford and I find a little bit devastated I was just starting to enjoy it.

My mind's buzzing and I don't know where to start.

I'd be grateful for your thoughts

From a teacher's perspective (and one who used to work in a school in a village just outside Oxford as well!), I'd say it might be better for your daughter to wait another year. Is she currently doing GCSEs? It's certainly possible for her to change school in year 11 and do well in the exams, but it's not the ideal situation.

I would do anything to avoid moving a child into year 11. It is really hard to pick up the same curriculum mid gcses and many schools would say no. Even year 10 could be tricky.

As a child, my family moved when I was in Year 11. Don't do it. 😕

Don’t move your daughter back for year 11, she won’t get the GCSE grades she deserves.

Its utterly bonkers and just cruel to move a child in year 11. You really need to wait another year.

Please try to find a way to move NOW, to early in Y10, or wait until the end of y12.
Moving for y11 is setting your daughter up for a very tough year.

Thank you for your responses.
You're all saying what I fear is true. However, DH just won't listen. He said the decision won't be final til next April, but it's already causing problems between us.
DH has suggested a recon. mission early next year. He wants me to go into schools and ask, but I keep saying "what are they gonna say?" I mean, the state schools aren't in can't say no if they have a place and we're in catchment.

I realise I never said; we're currently in the US.

I can't imagine how frustrating you're finding his response. The state schools will be obliged to take him. It doesn't mean it's even remotely a good idea. Why not hire an education consultant to give it to him straight seeing as he is not listening to you.