Does anyone know about benefits for single mothers in France?

[Nightynight]

I am thinking of moving back there, as Germany is becoming increasingly impossible for us as a single parent family. We just don't fit into the Kinder, Kirche, Kuche system of 1-2 children per family with a SAHM. As the system can clearly never be wrong in Germany, our family is by default deemed to be in the wrong, and the criticism is constant, and the pressure from the authorities is getting heavier and heavier. Actually, I want to get out before they take my children into care, under the pretext of "doing the best for your children, Frau Nightynight".

Problem is, I dont want to put myself in a similar situation to the UK, where we would lose our house if I lost my job, because the benefit system doesnt pay for mortgages.
How does the benefit system in France work, is it like the UK where they pay the rent separately, or do they just give you money every month, and you can spend it how you need, ie on a mortgage if you are buying a house?

The benefits system is quite complex and most of it is based on your income and family circumstances. You can get housing benefit whether you are renting or paying a mortgage. All info is \link{http://www.caf.fr/here}, assuming you speak/read French.

Good luck.

sorry, link here

Ring me. I know all about this particular subject!

Did you get my letter/card?

Have namechanged.....

Oh NN, don't go

Maybe things are looking particularly grim just now because of the Gymnasium issue which I agree is really worrying. I'm wondering if you have any combined Realschulen-Gymnasia. We have some of those here, so that the final decision on whether they actually end up sitting Abitur exams is postponed till later.

I don't know about the benefit situation in France at all but I would not like to be on benefits here that's for sure. The single mums I know who are on benefits have a really hard time with the Jobcentre. I have to dash out now but I'll look in tonight and see how you are. If you'd like to just chat anytime, send me an email [email protected]

Take care now

NN I have no idea about your specific question but am sure aol can help
Just wanted to send you encouraging vibes, I am sorry you have been finding Germany such uphill work

dear aol I will ring you.

ss, I just posted on another thread. things have got to crisis. the gymnasium issue is not the worst.
my son has been put down a year, to the 2nd year, work that he completed successfully last year in france, due to not speaking deutsch well enough last july, 8 weeks after he arrived in germany.
teacher told us that even if he was top of the 3rd year, they would still make him repeat, becuase the schulamt said so.

to top it all, I just got an email from the school social worker, saying that she thinks my children need "corrective help," and if I dont go to a meeting with her to discuss this, she will escalate it. (meeting will cost me 60 euros in lost earnings, apart from the implications of "corrective help")
Ive told her we dont need her help, but she just wont accept this.

Bloody hell NN. Vive la France. Come on over.

frenchleave - thank you for the link, Ive had a look. Should be able to claim most of the benefits listed, if the worst comes to the worst! Not sure how much we'd get though. Single mother with 4 children, and likely mortgage c 600 euros per month?

thank you for good wishes marina - it is a shame it hasnt worked out - I am blaming myself for bringing the children here at all, instead of just leaving them in the french system where they were ok. still, hopefully we can mend matters.

I am job hunting at the moment. Have decided to stay put and try to fob off the social worker for around 6-8 weeks, when I should come into a small amount of money, and can escape from her sacharine clutches.

You can't blame yourself NN, you were very brave attempting it on your own. I don't see how you could have foreseen the difficulties with the schools/Schulamt. You sound like an incredibly strong woman but Germany IME can be a harsh place and you have enough on your plate as it is without this. I really hope things work out well for you. I am crossing all my fingers and toes for you that a good job comes up in France.

Hi good afternoon I looking for information and I
come across your post please I really need your help I want to move to France with my children Germany as be make things difficult for me and my children my daughter was just 8 months old when they telling me that i needed help I told them I was ok because everything was really ok with me and my daughter they didn't give up I was surprise to get a letter from the court and the judge threatened me that if I don't agree they will have to take my child away I said know I don't need help but they were really seriously my lawyer told me I have no choice but to agree with them it's been years now and my daughter is 4 years now ever since this people came into my life things have become more difficult they are trying to my life a living hell ....month's ago I had my baby boy and they come to hospital telling me I have to come with them to a place call Mutter kind factory with the children that if I don't they will take the two children away from month's have passed through but things are not changing one excuse after another they keep complaining telling me that I will have to stay here for 5 years or more this place is like a prison I don't even have freedom friend and family cannot visit me I cannot visit they also my daughter have not been going to school ever since we move here is difficult to live in a place where you know the jugendamt are waiting for you to make a mistakes because any little mistakes they we take the children away I don't know what they went but i will not let them have their way I have decided to move to France with my children I don't know how things go over there please I need some information my baby boy is just 5 month all I can do now is to seek asylum over there please help a sis before I lose the children that keep me going in life

@Dolly2468

This post is nearly 14 years old so it would be better if you start your own thread as many people will see the 2007 date and not read any further.

Oooops - I see you already have!

I hope you get some useful responses.

Thanks a lot SparkysMagicPiano I thought it was five year's my mistake

Thanks a lot Bookmark I appreciate