Where to settle down, his country, mine or a neutral place?

[Almondmilk]

Hi all,
my husband and I are facing a major crisis not being able to decide where we should live. We met in the UK where we have network and friends. I lived in his country for 2 years where it's beautiful, where he owns a flat but winter is endless with no friends, no network even after 2 years there. My country is warmer and friendlier, we could have more space but I don't own a flat and we have no friends or network there.
We are now back to the UK and facing the problem of being two foreigners, speaking english to each others. I can not push him to live in my homeland as I don't know how good it would be for us. We both lived abroad for 10 years and got used to multicultural environment which makes it difficult to be back home, either his home or mine. We don't have kids yet and it's pressuring us now. I wish he would speak my language but I haven't been able to learn his language properly....
We seem to be stuck and I am seeking for your advices to improve the situation that is affecting our relationship badly....
thanks in advance!

Do you have a good relationship with your family? Would you want to be nearer to them when you have children? Would you want your children to be raised in your own culture?

Interesting that your post doesn't mention love in any way, on either part..

Do work this out before you have kids. It sounds like he's going to be pretty insistent that it's Scandinavia or London.

Off topic but is the UK really a mess though?

Of course. That is a lot of languages.
I agree with fandabby that there seems to be a lot of question marks in your relationship. If this tension about lifestyle choices/identity etc is a problem now it may really break you with children.
London seems like a happy medium. You can practice Opol and English will take care of itself. Both of you may have to accept that you will never live in your respective countries as a family. If you don't let that go one of you wil eventually become resentful.
Holiday homes are great to reconnect on a regular basis.