Enough efforts to make it work abroad?

[Almondmilk]

How to evaluate?
It's been 2 years I live in a new country. I asked my fiance to move to his homeland after living 9years in the UK. I realised fairly quickly that it is harder to adapt to a non-english speaking country, although everyone is able to speak english! I have started learning the language but I don't bond with people here so I don't practice. I find it very hard to feel fundamentally different. This country is good but I feel like a stranger and I kind of miss being in the UK even I am myself not from the UK!
My partner says that I haven't tried enough...although I have met a fairly good amount of people, I went out, I got a job, a gym card, etc!
So, how can I evaluate that I have tried enough and that it is time to leave? It might be mental to go back to the UK as were are both not from there...My partner doesn't trust me anymore with my moving plans (I don't blame him).
Advice much welcomed

up!

They say it takes two years to settle each way, so 2 years tyere and 2 years if you come back. Can you face it again ?

@Pisssssedofff
Good point. Maybe it's just too much effort. Maybe it would be better to go back to my homeland in a few years instead...and face 2 yrs of settlement but at least it will be for good!!!

I think you've tried it and if you aren't feeling it after two years then that's that.

It's harder than I thought to have to deal with a new language and a cultural shock. It's far different from being a non-british in London or being an Erasmus for a year. I feel like a guest big time.

I agree with the two year thing: the first year is about finding your feet, the second year is - or should be - about enjoying it, and getting deeper into the culture of your guest country.

Does your fiance see your long term future in his home country? Marriage, kids, the lot there?

Mariage is not something we consider. Kids, well, he let me decide when I want to initiate that. i think he can picture himself in his homeland, after all he is from there even if he says that he doesn't feel in phase with the country. He does question it a lot, especially that he has no friends here.
I just can't stop trying to find solution to move away. The guilt is huge as Scandinavia is good and moving back to London is crazy. I really struggle picturing myself speaking the language everyday, giving up on arts activities and having no friends. I have trouble sleeping. It's 5am here and I am still awake thinking........