moving far away and parents

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To those of you who have made big moves. Did it cause problems/heartache with your families? We moved away from my family but within UK soon after we married, then when ds1 (first grandchild) was 18 months and I was expecting dd, we moved to Switzerland and stayed there for almost 5 years. My parents weren't exactly happy, but at least we were in Europe.

Then we moved to Holland and have lived here, bought a house etc for the last 5 years. We are probably moving next summer to Singapore - a once in a lifetime career opportunity for my husband, but my parents are very unhappy about the move. My dad has just had a heart bypass and although I'm sure he will recover fully, both he and my mum are uneasy about the thought of a short hop to Europe let alone a long haul flight.

But basically, in terms of jobs etc, we have v little choice plus this could be a great family move. But our 3 kids are their only grandchildren and they will miss them desperately.

Thoughts anyone?

we moved to Aus ( my home) from the UK when dd1 was almost 2 and I was 20 weeks pregnant with dd2. Taking my MIL's only grandchildren. Whilst she misses us terribly and has never seen dd2 - she knows we made the best move for us as a family. She also knew that this was permanent. Needless to say there was a lot of tears the day we left all round.

My FIL ( dh's step father) never got to meet dd2 nor will he see baby due Mar as he passed away Sept this year..... that is when we felt the distance. FIL was diagnosed with aggressive cancer and had passed away within a three month period.....felt bad about not being able to be there for MIL. Although dh did go back in Jun/Jul and then again in Sept for the funeral.

MIL said she would not travel but seems to be talking about the best time to come to Aus etc so she may come - especially as no3 is on the way.

FIL was told after his triple bypass there would be nothing stopping him doing the trip to Aus.

so whilst MIL misses the girls desperately - she knows this really is the best for us and so is happy for us.

hope that is a help.