Taking bets...will I be able to get back to the uk without having a nervous breakdown

[MamaApronstrings]

'cos at the moment I wouldn't want to bet my mortgage on it...

Whats up?

nothing in particular, but the housing market isn't good here, dh has seen a house in uk he thinks we want, the business of packing up for dh, me and 4 children, and the cat, selling cars, all electrics and rebuying in uk , plus house, new (ish) part of country and not ending up thousands in debt gets to me from time to time...quite homesick, really want to get home but the burden of getting there feels like it requires more energy than i have....so sorry

Blimey im not suprised
Where abouts are you living then?

it's the thought of starting the process,once the ball has started rolling it won't seem so unsurmountable.

we are just outside wshington dc. when we moved from uk we wanted to but a house here, not feel like we were camping etc...we have decided to come home...totally our decision, and we are really lucky dh got a great job quite quickly but as a matriachal (sp) figure who really holds the family together while dp travels all over the world, and who has drunk more than half a bottle of sparkling wine, has a probable chest infection and is warn out I doubt my ability to deal with it al in the 'monica like' manner that best fits my personality

Bless you, MamaAS! Hope you feel better in the morning. As one who has moved endlessly, it does all happen eventually, no matter how chaotic and immense a task it seems at the time.

Having said which, I'm living in Nigeria atm and facing a possible local move and I don't know how I'm going to cope! Pass the wine, someone..........

hve moved endlesslessy - got married Liverpool 3 years, Briistol 21/2 years, cambridge 3 years dc 3 years, now to the wirral - hes pissed off with me not least 'cos I have been drinking and all the children are crying but he has been abroad for 1o days out of the last 2 weeks, my chest is bad, and I am warn out, physically exhausted I think.

I am the type of woman who, juggles the kids, cuts the grass, decorates a room etc while he is away...when I have had it he just doesn't get it

I sympathise. My dh has also spent a lot of time away from home over the years. Can you settle the dc's and then take yourself off to bed for a good night's sleep?

its 7.30!
sorry all feeling uncharacteristically sorry for myself tonight..tomorrow everything will look better and I will have the energy to deal with it

Oh yes, sorry, time difference!! I've got to go now (it's 1.45am here) but hope tomorrow will indeed be brighter.

thanks for chatting - when we get home I will NEVER be on here at this time of night!!!

{Hugs} MamaAS.

Overseas moves are crap! I'm in the middle of planning my move back to the UK (except that I keep putting things off so haven't got very far) so empathise with you. I only have 1 ds though so hats off to you for doing that with 4 of them & a cat.

Think how worth it it will all be when you're settled though. Back in the UK, familiar surroundings, fish & chips, plenty of tea, little cars, the bbc... Oh how I miss it!

No advice for you, just lots of sympathy. More wine perhaps?

thanks mamama - hows your neighbour?

Neighbor is ok thanks. Haven't seen them much but she's home and was ok last time I spoke to her. I took her some homemade shortbread when was released from the hospital.

Do you know when you will be moving?

dh is going to start work in the uk at the beginning of April I think...so end of March

Oh, that's not very long, really. If you lived in Liverpool (I went to Uni there ), do you know the Wirral well? Are you excited, apart from all the moving issues?

mmm.ish, its the getting there that bothers me - looking forward to being there. Really sure there are things here I will miss, but nice to be back home i think.

Its really the selling/buying of houses at a distance that is doing for me this weekend - rowing with dh - totally stress induced - it gets me down

were also both students in Liverpool - got married there and had dd1 there. Never lived on the wirral - but schools seem quite good - dh and i rarely go out now - the city isn't as appealing for a couple of old codgers as it once was..

Hmm, agree that Liverpool is less enticing than it once was- I love to visit but am not sure I'd want to move back there with DS etc (We had a few bad experinces but probably due to living on Smithdown rd rather than the city itself). Just can't see myself stealing pint glasses from the Cavern anymore

Moving is horribly stressful at the best of times but an international move is bound to test the patience of a saint. Sorry you and DH are rowing. Once you're all organised, you probably won't even remember this bit.