Trapped abroad....

[CloudWallaby]

I moved to DH's home country 6 months ago. He never settled in the UK (despite having a good job) and always made it clear that he wanted to go back. I agreed (before we married) and he spent a year or so trying to find a role in his DH. We have 2 DC (DS 3 and DD 8 months). In the end we moved over without him having secured a job, as he argued that it was too difficult to do so from a different country, time zone etc.
So, we moved. And he hasn't even had an interview. He's trying hard but it seems that there is nothing in his field. I am on mat leave from my role and intended for us to return to the UK if things didn't work out - but now it is clear that he will never do this, no matter how things go on the job front.
I'm basically trapped here and can only wait for things to improve. Has anyone else found themselves in this situation? Any advice would be very welcome!

Just had a thought for gripewater and Cloudwallaby Have you contacted your Mach nurse. In Australia they put in touch with a group of mothers in your area and facilitate meetings. It can happen quite a while after birth because some women don't feel ready ect. info about mach nurses here

You can take the kids out the country unless he has a spare $300,000 to enforce the hauge convention there'd be bugger all he could do

I read in your op that you're on ML. Are you still on ML? Could you somehow get back to 'tie up loose ends'?

I do agree with pp that you should have stayed in the Uk, and followed him until he got the job he wanted.

I'm glad I left Perth, despite everyone telling me how beautiful the weather is. Sod that, at least I'm happy, weather or not. I'm loving the rain, decent tv, cheap food, friendly people...

I'm surprised you're still plodding along Mos

You and me both mate x

Thanks everyone - especially hazchem for the practical advice. On good days (usually the sunny ones) I try to focus on the benefits of having DH around a little more. On bad days (most of them) I just feel angry and resentful that we're in this position.
I am planning to return to the UK in April/May next year (when ML ends) - at the moment just for a few weeks. If DH hasn't found a role by then and won't move back (meaning i'd have to leave my much loved job in the UK for good) it's hard to see how the relationship would survive.

I gave up my job whilst in Oz whilst on ML. Sorry to say this was the BIGGEST mistake of my life. I loved my job, I was supposed to retire from this job. I resent my h every day for putting me in that position.

Cloud don't do it. I could quite happily have left my h there, and still wish he was there.