WHERE'S BEST TO LIVE IN NZ ETC :PART 6!!!

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Wow! Part 6...got to be a record.

MN Towers, where's our prize?!

Turns out im a multitasker because i am both wildly impressed by you guys, and hate you because it highlights my total and utter laziness.

But seriously there's no way I'm swimming in the sea

I did go walking the dog in the rain for an hour though! didn't reward myself with an Easter egg oh no

Very impressed with all your exercise ladies. I haven't done any for ages unless you count turning over my compost heap and digging a massive hole in the garden to remove an unwanted plant.

I have been very brave tonight and went to a party on my own.

That is very brave! Right up there with sea swimming in my book.

Morning all

I think autumn might be here. It was distinctly chilly this morning, and DD2's crèche had heating on

Also - offering myself up for a coffee meet on Friday (ideally before noon so I can get some study done, but I'm flexible )

How can it be so cold overnight/in the morning - our HRV was reading 5 degrees in the loft space this morning, this time last week it was 25 degrees overnight ! It's as though somebody has switched a switch and winter has descended overnight. At least the days are still beautiful. Am off into the garden to do some work related reading shortly. Cunning plan to make the most of these days is to start work at 6, work on-line until now, head outside for the afternoon, then back on-line in the evenings - have to make the most of it!

ok I know I run the risk of being accused of being obsessed or being told to get a life but it is now 40 degrees in my loft space. That is a 35 degree increase so far today. How can that be! Looney weather - I have shed the kathmandu tops (x2) socks, uggs and jeans I started the day in and am now wearing a vest top, shorts and jandals.

Can you tell I am supposed to be working and/or studying for my test this week (exams in a few weeks)

It's weird isn't it. I took a hottie to bed last night- although I haven't change to my winter duvet yet and am now in my shorts.

I have managed to get DD back on track with bedtimes and she is being super sweet. But I am sulking with DH who keeps asking if I appreciate him now! 5 days to go....

Does anyone here crochet? I was looking at the woolyhugs FB group and wondering if anyone would fancy setting up a NZ group?

I don't crochet for it is evil and defeated me but I do knit. Mind you, I'd be the worst person to commit to something like the woolyhugs group at the moment - I'm so tired by the evening I barely manage to get a full row knit.

(ps: anyone wanting to learn, I'm happy to teach over coffee wine )

Yes it's that weird time of the year when I'm wearing thermal socks in the morning and then by the time I came back from school in the afternoon it was 28 degrees in the house.

Crocheting/knitting type stuff I am no good at - I can just about hem trousers, which I had to learn to do as I'm so short and always have to take them up.

Crochet - sorry no, had to learn when I was young, can also knit and sew but don't do either of those now.

My best friend just passed away.

I am undone.

Frik- I am so, so sorry.

Frik - justabout pretty much summed up everything I've been trying to figure out how to say since I read the message.

I'm so sorry for your loss and you and your friend's family are in my prayers tonight xx

Oh justa, how did you know. How did you know

She was my light. And I don't know how I am going to get through this

Thank you vvvv and littlest. No one knows yet in RL as its so early there. And it's the families place to tell people. I have never felt so alone in all my life.

What keeps making me want to dig my heart out of my chest is that I keep thinking that no one here knew her. I don't know why it's this one thing that killing me.

I spoke to her yesterday. And a friend read to her the letter I had written to her kids, and a letter just for her. I say speak, but she was nonverbal by this point. But she could understand everything.

I feel hollowed out. Like I've been kicked in the head.

Grief is so physical

Frik, you will get through this. You will always grieve but in time it will become less intense and become bearable. Hug your DH and DD and take some time today to remember.

The things that helped me were talking about her with the people who knew my BF, being outside and doing something to remember her every year.

Will you go back for the funeral? I imagine it'd be very hard mentally so if you don't perhaps you and DH could do something here?

This is the poem that was read at my BF's funeral- it was a private one.

Miss Me But Let Me Go
Author: Anonymous

When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me
I want to rites in a gloom-filled room
Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me a little-but not too long
And not with your head bowed low
Remember the love that we once shared
Miss me-but let me go

For this is a journey that we all must take
And each must go alone.
It's all part of the Master's plan
A step on the road to home

When you are lonely and sick of heart
Go to the friends we know
And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds
Miss me but let me go.

Howling in the dark.

That is what I am doing.

I had time to prepare. But nothing could have guarded my heart from the bleak landscape that is my grief.

Everyone knows now, the tributes to her have started and it is a torture.

Thank you so much for taking the time to be so supportive ladies, honestly it is a lifeline.

Oh Frik, Littlest, justabout - I'm crying now, I'm so sorry.