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Die Kaffeestube Teil 2 - virtual Kaffeeklatsch in Germany and Austria

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cheaspicks · 22/08/2012 09:57

Chat for those living in a German-speaking country, or anyone else who is interested.

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cheaspicks · 30/08/2012 08:30

EnglishWoman I hope your swimming instructor keeps to that guarantee. Is your Freibad heated, then. I swam 20-odd lengths on Tuesday when ploom and family were here, but the pool was 19 deg Shock. The other pool was slightly warmer and the dc had fun in it, but I can't imagine they could have held a swimming lesson in either pool without a lot of parents complaining.

I've been somewhat frustrated by my inability to swim front crawl since I've started swimming again, so I looked it up online for some tips. Apparently the internet assumes that all people swimming for exercise are preparing for triathalons Hmm. I did find one page called Very Basic Swimming, only to read suggestions for how to improve once you can swim a mile without stopping Confused.

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admylin · 30/08/2012 08:41

I'm very Envy of all the satelites and UK TV! I'd love it. We watch things that come on youtube like some of the US crime series, the whole 2 series of Lark Rise to Candleford but just have to put up with the German versions of most things.

antique great taste, your ds and very healthy!
Wanting good idea to get some of the stuff out of storage. I did that too when ours was all packed away for over a year but they had to swap for something out of the tiny flat or we'd have been falling over things!
ploom your colleague didn't get back to me so I'm setting off to the physio and going to be assertive and not let her hurt me as much as last time. I think I'll just beg her to do 10 minutes of massage and let me go or I might try crying?!!!
Linzer sounds exactly like my dc, dd never speaks English and ds and his English friend speak German to each other! I give up and just hope that the intensive English langauge exposure from their early years has sunk in and it's still in there somewhere!

cheaspicks · 30/08/2012 09:01

admylin hope the physio does some good today! I had reflexology when I was pg and dd wouldn't turn head down. Basically the midwife dug her thumbnail into various points on my feet and asked where it hurt the most Hmm. Sounds a bit like what you had the other day - maybe it was acupressure (reflexology is just feet afaik)?

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LinzerTorte · 30/08/2012 09:05

EnglishWoman No, I told a lie - it's actually my brother who does the recording. My mum used to record programmes for us when they still sent us videos and you just needed to press one button to record, but she can't cope with the DVD player and I can't say I blame her - it all looks horrendously complicated. My brother is now back home so does all the recording, I discuss the programmes to be recorded with my mum, and my dad packages the DVDs up to send so it's a family effort!

Emandlu Are you doing an exchange or is it an Austauschpartnerin from school? I've love to get back in touch with the girl I stayed with on our school exchange but I can't find her on Facebook (although I did find an address for a lawyer in Hamburg with the same - unusual - name).

cheas I'm not sure I can even remember how to do the front crawl. Blush I occasionally manage a couple of lengths if DH is around too, but not at our local pool as the water in the Sportbecken is always far too cold for me. I keep telling myself that I'm going to get back into running once the DC are back at school and it's cooled down a bit!

admylin Yes, I'm sure all the English they hear in their early years won't have gone to waste and they'll be quite capable of going from passive to active use of English later if they want/have to. At least the DC still speak English to me (DS occasionally forgets but will switch back without complaining if I remind him); I know a few English-speaking mothers whose DC refuse to speak English to them.

Ploom · 30/08/2012 09:08

Morning all!

oh admylin - I'm so sorry he didnt get back to you. He didnt get back to me the rest of the day either so not sure whether he was busy. Hope the appt goes better today.

cheaspicks - I was really impressed with how well you swam on tuesday. But agree there's a bit of a difference swimming 20 lengths to swimming in a triathlon!!

emandlu - have a fab time in Germany Smile.

english - your older 2 have done well not to catch the pox yet. My 3 must have been really unlucky and all had by age 3. Are they still all unwell? Are you getting any sleep??

Linzer - glad you had a good time with your friend yesterday - I really love having an afternoon of chatting in English. I was talking to cheaspicks in English on tuesday and talking to my dc in English but they were talking constantly to each other in German. Its infuriating but glad its not just my dc.

wanting - Grin to having your hairdryer. And that seems like a good idea to get some of the girls' toys out. Fingers crossed about the flat on saturday.

oh antique you'll be smelling that garlic for days to come and oh the poos will be fragrant too Grin. But at least you know he's adventurous with food!!

aw cakebump - a Christmas baby Smile. I agree a perfect time to snuggle in the house and babymoon!

Off to get some food shopping - these dc are eating everything at the moment then taking dd to a party this afternoon before round 2 at the Rathaus. I have dh's written permission and all the other requirements - what could possibly go wrong Hmm?

WoIstAlice · 30/08/2012 10:41

Hi

is anyone online

need help

re a minor gas leak

LinzerTorte · 30/08/2012 10:50

I'm here Alice - though not sure how much help I'd with gas leaks.

TheEnglishWomanInTheAttic · 30/08/2012 11:28

Alice hope your gas leek is fixed or the gas turned off at least? Our house is rented so I'd just call the landlord (unless the house was about to blow up, when I guess I'd call the fire brigade!) - although I prefer never to do that as he speaks Bayrish and won't or can't switch to Hoch Deutsch so I only understand about 1 word in 3 even face to face, possibly I'd have top get a neighbour to communicate with him by phone if DH wasn't about to do it Blush

My kids speak English to each other 90% of the time if we have no non family members here, we have been here 5 years, since DD was a toddler, and the boys were born here, so it sounds like they are quite unusual, but they are young - tbh I hope it doesn't change! They don't have any close English speaking friends but we do sometimes meet up with one family we met through an English toddlers group that has long since folded - the nearly 7 year olds speak English to each other but the 4 year olds switch to German ... My German is still bad enough that the kids instinctively stick to English with me I think, though if they try switching to exclusively German my selective understanding will mean they won't be getting treats and lifts and help with anything I don't actually need to help with unless they ask in English - just basic maintenance til they switch back :o

Not getting a lot of sleep no Ploom although DD is fine, just sneezing a bit and blowing her nose, DS1 has a cough with the sneezing but is also OK and only woke once in the night - luckily I was in his room already (we've just moved the boys in together) as I was sleeping on the mattress on the floor in there with Ds2, who is doing one decent stretch of about 3 hours but up and down the rest of the night.

Yes Freibad is heated - baby pool usually around 30, "fun pool" high 20s and lane swimming and diving pools around 25 - they have the temps up on the way in, but the kids also have shortie wetsuits they wear when the air temp is low 20s or below :o I love swimming but rarely can due to ds2. I used to swim a mile 3 or 4 mornings a week when I was at uni, it is the only sport I have ever found that I really enjoy, though I don't do the strokes properly due to contact lenses and habit Blush I used to have no problem doing 60 lengths of the uni pool in 40 mins or so - slow but steady - which was a mile, I think I could still do it if I ever got the chance, but that it would take me a lot longer now. I love the way you can let your mind drift off when lane swimming alone - when I briefly attempted couch to 5k before conceiving DS2 I was always concentrating on the timings and in too much pain/ strain to do that Blush, but I guess people who can run comfortably get the same from running! I don't find the Freibad water cold but am well insulated :o DD impressed me last time by swimming 50 meters (2 lengths of the lane swimming pool) without stopping, and ds1 is getting the hang of things gradually, one day they'll all swim well enough for me to swim up and down rather than supervise at the Freibad!

WoIstAlice · 30/08/2012 12:00

Im confused

the evn

were here
yesterday because we thought we had a gas leak we didnt

but they came again today

and say we

Do have a small gas Leak outside

Im panicking Im afraid
dh is now not taking calls and MIL said she would ring some plumbers

please tell me Im not silly
we only have one exit and the leak is near there

sorry for the long ramble

LinzerTorte · 30/08/2012 12:05

Alice Yes, in an emergency call the fire brigade (122) - although if it's minor, I'd probably just call the gas company and ask for their advice. (Actually, DH would probably be my first port of call as I hate speaking German on the phone to people I don't know. Especially Austrians with incomprehensible accents - thankfully that's only happened once, when I just didn't have a clue what the man on the other end of the phone was on about and pathetically asked if he could speak to my husband instead.) Are you with EVN? Hope you've got it sorted now, anyway.

English I listen to music when I'm running to take my mind off how exhausting it actually is. I think fairly fit runners can let their mind drift quite easily, but unfortunately I'm not quite at that level of fitness! I probably manage to think non-running thoughts for about 5% of my run. This will probably go down to about 0.5% when I actually get out running again.

LinzerTorte · 30/08/2012 12:08

x posts Alice. If the EVN didn't seem to think it was anything that needed to be dealt with urgently, then I'm sure you don't need to worry. What did they suggest you do? Hopefully your MIL will be able to get hold of a plumber soon.

worldcitizen · 30/08/2012 12:09

Call the fire brigade and ask them, do not worry, you can call them, even if it is not an immediate emergency , if you're in Germany than the number is

112

LinzerTorte · 30/08/2012 12:11

Alice is in Austria, world - the number for the fire brigade is 122 here.

worldcitizen · 30/08/2012 12:18

Oh Alice is in Austria, well as I said before, I am really rubbish at keeping up with who's who Blush

LinzerTorte · 30/08/2012 12:29

No reason for you to know, world; she hasn't posted for a while. Smile

The DC are driving me mad with their constant squabbling. I think they have a touch of cabin fever, although we were out in the garden for quite a while this morning. Luckily they're all invited to a birthday party this afternoon, which should take their minds off trying to kill each other.

worldcitizen · 30/08/2012 12:30

How nice Linzer. I bet you have really sunshine and warm weather in Austria right now?!

LinzerTorte · 30/08/2012 12:38

We do at the moment, but it's forecast to get much cooler and wetter from tomorrow - just in time for our BBQ with the neighbours on Saturday. Hmm

worldcitizen · 30/08/2012 12:45
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cheaspicks · 30/08/2012 14:24

English I love the Zen aspect of swimming as well, but I can only achieve it swimming breaststroke. If I swim crawl I just focus on how annoying it is to get hair in my mouth and on trying to convince myself I'm not about to drown. However I found out yesterday that the pool I've been swimming in is actually 50m (I thought it seemed longer than I remembered the uni pool in Manchester being) which means I haven't got loads slower and the half length of crawl that I can currently manage is in fact a whole 25m length. Hooray! My goal now is to be able to swim 10 lengths of the indoor (25m) pool alternating crawl and breaststroke. I reckon if I find crawl so hard, then learning to do it better will make me fitter .

Alice hope everything's being sorted.

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TheEnglishWomanInTheAttic · 30/08/2012 14:40

Linzer how do your DC often manage to all get invited to the same parties? Do you know several families with 3 matching age children? I only ask because my older 2 are never invited to the same place, even the couple of families one child is friends with, with matched age and gender children, don't work out because only one "pair" are friends and the other not in each case... DC 3 is too young to be invited anywhere but I am impressed with how you've beaten the odds of finding a match for 3 DC within one family!

We delivered birthday invites this morning, DS1 got sad because we delivered more for DD; she has invited 8 girls and 2 boys whilst he has only invited 4 boys. DS's invitees are the only ones he wanted and 3 of whom live within 100 meters (he and DD delivered their invites on foot, along with 4 of dd's), he was quite happy until we drove to a couple of other villages and had 7 remaining houses to deliver invites to, and he noticed 6 were DD's friends and only 1 his... but she has always had an excessive number of friends, and I honestly think 5 little boys to go bowling (plus DD who he has also invited) will be a good number, more would get chaotic, and all the boys he has invited will make the effort to come - I didn't ask parents about suitable dates in advance this year ( I have in previous years and ended up with everyone trying to set their own agenda and still not suiting everyone), and one mum rung not long after we got home from delivering to ask if there is any way I can pick up her DS from KiGa and take him with us to the bowling place, otherwise she will need to try to change her shift Shock - the party isn't for 3 weeks and I'm not sure any of DD's friends' mums would offer to change a shift at work so their DC could come to her party...

admylin · 30/08/2012 15:18

English do you have a budget for birthday parties? Do you know what the bowling will cost you? Just wondering as dd is thinking of things to do for her birthday in October and when ds went bowling with only 2 of his friends (so 3 boys) and for a pizza at PizzaHut afterwards I was 100? lighter! Thank goodness he didn't invite 8 or more!
Might try the cinema for dd if there is a decent film not too babyish and not too old (difficult age 13).

Linzer enjoy the quiet time while the dc are at the party. I agree you seem to have luck with making friends with people who invite all 3, nice at that age.
cheaspicks never heard of accupressure but it could be something like that. Was it bearable to have someone fiddle with your feet for reflexology? I can't even bear to have a pedicure!
Alice hope the gas problem is solved soon.
ploom hope you were allowed to apply for the passport this time! I'm thinking of getting one if we stay in Germany any longer - so cheap! Did you re-stock your cupboards? Mine are empty too so I'm off to Aldi later when I drop dd at hockey in the hop ethat I won't spend too much. Atleast there are no temptations in Aldi.

My physio wasn't as painful today as I was brave and told her it hurt so much that my arm is still sore so she did my neck instead.

LinzerTorte · 30/08/2012 15:40

EnglishWoman We're friends with two families where we'll have all the children over to play and vice versa, but the children aren't matching ages, and then there are our neighbours, who do have three DC the same age as ours (but they're the ones least likely to invite all three to parties, although the children do play together a lot).

They've gone to a 5 year old's birthday party today (DS's best friend's little sister), but the girls are quite happy to go - they love looking after the two little ones and their mother always says how good they are with them. On the "downside" (although I didn't really mind, apart from the fact that we had far too many children at both parties), we had all three of hers at DD2's and DS's birthday parties last month.

Speaking from experience, five little boys are definitely enough! Please remind me of this when I'm planning DS's birthday party next year. Grin DD2 has invited 10-12 girls before and it's been absolutely fine (but again, 20 was too many and again, I may need reminding of this next year).

cheas Well done on the swimming. It's so hot and sticky here today that even I might be tempted to go into the water. If I was actually near some water, that is. Going to the pool would be just a little too much effort, especially as I have the house to myself (albeit for only another 45 minutes).

LinzerTorte · 30/08/2012 15:43

admylin Glad the physio was less painful today.

Ploom Hope you had more success at the Rathaus today!

cheaspicks · 30/08/2012 16:08

Does anyone have any suggestions for CDs I could get for DD to listen to in bed? I already have English nursery rhymes, German nursery rhymes, 1950s compilation (Nellie the Elephant, etc.), Jazz lullabies, world music lullabies and a Beatles compilation, but she's heard all of them so many times that she's getting desperate for something new. I was wondering about trying audio books, but she scares easily, so I suspect that the heffalump in Winnie the Pooh, for example, would upset her. Any ideas?

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CakeBump · 30/08/2012 16:14

I'm very impressed at everyone's swimming! I started a little while ago as running was becoming uncomfortable as I got more of a pregnancy bump. However I was then back in the UK for three weeks and I've only managed to go once since I've been back Blush. There's a lovely pool near us though with a jacuzzi and a bit where you can swim outside.

Speaking of German passports, has anyone applied for a new UK passport in Germany? Mine is in my maiden name and I need to get around to changing it. I presume I'll have to send it to the Consulate or something but I need to look into it.

We've been brainstorming ideas for the restaurant today and have come up with a customer questionnaire which we'll start giving out tonight. Hopefully it will give us an idea of the sorts of things our customers are interested in and any improvements we can make. We do music evenings, which are very popular, but I'm hoping to have a craft morning or maybe start mother and baby coffee mornings. Its good to have a few ideas as sometimes we can get a bit stuck in a rut....