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Life in Pakistan as an expat'

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babloogirl · 08/05/2012 16:56

My dh would like us to relocate to his home country within 5 years.

I want to have an idea of what life is like before accepting.

We would be living in the region of Lahore/faisalabald

Thanks

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HillyWallaby · 09/05/2012 03:59

How long is it since he has lived there or visited regularly? I was having dinner with several Pakistani friends last night and they all say they'd love to settle back there when they retire but it can be a pretty dangerous place to be if you are considered 'rich' by average standards. So many kidnappings for financial gains and for political reasons. Not that I know much about it personally but I get the impression they are very wary, and the crime rate has gone through the roof as well compared to 20 years ago.

MarieFromStMoritz · 09/05/2012 05:06

HillyWallaby is right. I have lots of Pakistani friends and acquaintances and I am constantly hearing about the violence, kidnapping, revenge gang-rapes... awful stuff.

I get the impression it is not a nice place to live or raise a family at the moment.

mumblechum1 · 09/05/2012 05:36

Are you English, OP? If so don't you think the culture there would be pretty difficult to adjust to?

HillyWallaby · 09/05/2012 06:39

The other thing to bear in mind (and please don't take offence on your DH's behalf by what I am about to say) is that if you are British born and have grown up in a non-Muslim family/culture, you may find that the husband you have here is not the husband you will have there, iyswim. Often in these cases a man can be the perfect metrosexual British bloke while he is here, but can often revert to type, or bow to family and peer pressure to be more 'traditional' in what he expects from you, once he is back home. It can be a massive for a western woman to adapt to a culture/lifestyle that may seem oppressive and misogynistic in comparison.

It's an all too common story, and then you are trapped, as the law will be on his side if you wish to return home with your children and he doesn't want you to take them. Just think it through very very carefully. sorry, don't wish to be negative. Smile

HillyWallaby · 09/05/2012 06:41

a massive what Hilly? Grin

a massive challenge/shock etc

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