HELP me decide what to do!!!

[banana87]

I REALLY need some neutral opinions!

I am American. DH is British. I've been living here nearly 10 years and DH always said he'd never move to the US so I kinda got used to the fact that I was stuck here forever (no offense!). We both own our own business and now have 2 small children. We both work part time this sharing responsibility for the kids. DH's mum died 4 years ago so it's just his dad, SIL, BIL, and DN no other family. DD1 is very close to her grandad, sees him twice a week at least and he adores her.

DH has now announced he wants to emigrate to the US or Canada.

Now this would be bloody fantastic for my career, and I would keep my business here and have my collegue run it but still oversees clients from abroad. DH would have to be a stay at home dad and I would be the one working full time for at least 2 years when I would start my own business again. So in essence I would be the breadwinner.

We have no savings, DH has some money tied up so we would have to save before going anywhere. I also wanted to have a 3rd DC in about 3 years. This wouldn't be feasible if we emigrate. I am 31, so time is ticking if we want more children (we do).

I have no idea what to do!! It would be a better way of life for the kids but we would be going from a pretty cosy life here to something completely different there. And we won't be moving where I have family so we will be without a family support network close by like we have here.

How do I make this decision????

Start by thinking if you are just wanting to go "home" because, well it is home. Or if you actually truly want to live there.

Why has DH suddenly come to this idea? Is he unhappy in UK or is it just a thing that he would like to try.

Surely you can go anytime if you're American.Why don't you do it in 5 years time when you've had your 3rd(bit of a jump from 2 I know from experience so grandad will be useful).

I would tell him to sleep on it........for about a year. If he's always been against moving to the US, it may well be that his reasons for wanting to go are more about being hacked off with the UK than positively attracted to the US, and that's always a bad reason to emigrate. Also, I think if you're thinking about moving permanently then he needs to give it a lot of thought.

Why would he have to be a SAHD? Visa restrictions? I thought he'd be ok as you;re a US citizen.