is Settling in Supposed to be this Hard ?

[batsforlashes]

Seriously, tonight all I want to do is pack my bags and go home with the kids. Not sure what to do with Dh, right now he can stay where he is.

Background is : we have moved from Europe to Sydney- my Dh is from Australia and I am from Europe , with our three kids( 5,3 10 months) and I am miserable. Seriously not sure what I was thinking in agreeing to this move.

We have just been out for the night with some of DH's old friends and he has been busy telling them how similar life is really and not all that much has changed. In the meantime, I have left behind my home, my parents , my sisters, all my nieces and nephews not to mention my friends but according to to my DH with Skype and Facebook it is pretty much the same as being at home- I want to knock his head off......

Now I know it has only been two months and early days but I cannot help but thinking that this is the biggest mistake I have ever made. I am doing all I can in terms of making friends and being sociable but am running our of energy.

Not sure what I am asking for in terms of replies but I feel utterly desperate.

Bats, glad it's going better for you. What area of Sydney are you in? We are in Manly and have been here since January. There are parts of my life over here that I love but I still don't really feel settled. I think dh and I need to have a good chat about everything but he's working really hard at the moment.

Anyway if Manly is accessible for you please feel free to meet up in the holidays. I have three boys aged 9, 7 and 3 and a little girl aged 4 months.

I moved abroad from Europe to Uk without my dear husband (after divorce), being alone with my 6yo kid, first 3 months without any friends, no social network, during 4th month 5-6 friends, progress. And I dont complain. It is difficult, but it is about the attitude girls, just think about the positives only and you will be happy as well.

Hi Bats, I missed your first post, we were packing up our lives then! We arrived here at the end of October and have only just got out of the serviced apartment into our own place! We're still waiting for our furniture shipment though. I'm very up and down at the moment, DD (6) also had a birthday last week and that was hard. I'm in the eastern suburbs if you ever want to meet up.

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Thank you all for your lovely messages. I would love to meet up with any Sydney mums - we are in Lane Cove so half way between Manly and Eastern Suburbs [grin}

Think I spoke too soon with my happy clappy update, truly miserable the last few weeks. Obviously Christmas was always going to be hard, but I am generally not feeling the love for Sydney-rain, cost of living ( was quoted $30 an hour for cleaning today- WTF??, ) started a new job a couple of weeks ago- feeling even more of a new girl, it is all a bit much.

No doubt I will be back again in Jan/ Feb so I suppose it is all a rollercoaster and this is a serious low.

Anyhow, wishing you all a lovely Christmas and hopefully will get to meet a few of you in the new year.

B x