Hi all- am quite confused and seeking wise advice.
DH is likely to be offered a job in NZ and we are in two minds about what to do. When he applied it was advertised as 18-24 month contract but now he has been told it is permanent. We have visited NZ and love it, and I have nagged encouraged DH to apply for work there, but this has happened rather quickly and we are torn.
On the one hand, it is a great opportunity (not just the location, it's a good job for DH). Our son is a toddler and we hope to have more children soon so there is nobody older to uproot. I would love to experience the lifestyle and I like a bit of adventure and to give my life a shake every couple of years.
Our parents are in pretty good health and certainly fit anough to visit at the moment. This might not be the case in a few years, and our son will be older, so I feel that if we are going to do this it must be now or it won't be until we retire.
BUT our families would miss DS (and us) dreadfully, and I would miss them. And I do not want to emigrate permanently. I know the fact the job is permanent doesn't mean we are stuck there (they will relocate us with a two year tie in) but it feels a bit different IYSWIM. And what if we love it?
Also I work in a professional job albeit part time and would have to give it up. This doesn't bother me massively as I was thinking of retraining in any case and I hope to have another baby soon. But that may not happen...
To add to all that DS was extremely premature and I am nervous about the antenatal/neonatal care although I suspect it would be very good as any developed country and the town we would live in has a NICU.
Thank you if you have read all of that. Aargh! How do we decide?