Already half posted about this, if your dp asked you to come home

[Ladydutchalot]

Would you? He isn't coping with us being away. I've finally sorted out all the problems out here, and am ever so slightly starting to feel settled (well, have been much more positive for the past two days, I haven't cried at all!).

Dp rang today in floods of tears asking us to come home (he is a stiff upper lip kinda guy), as he can't cope. The thought of leaving him like that until July is not even feasible. I spoke to the university today, and they are fine with us going home in a few months, but I am worried that my sending university will not be best pleased (I signed an agreement for a year) and I may ruin it for other families wanting to do the exchange in the future. I don't want to be seen as a bailer, or as though I am throwing the opportunity back in their faces, as everyone had to work so hard and pull so many strings to get us here.

What a mess!!

I've been there - pm me if you want to discuss in more detail.

Yes please Mrs S. I'm just going to finish up the washing up and packed lunches, and will send a message across. Thank you so much.

Not sure what to advise you, but I don't think you should be worrying about other families or how you are seen etc.

The situation sounds incredibly difficult and I think sometimes you just have to think of your own family's needs and not worry about all the rest.

Good luck with working through it! How does DP feel about waiting until January? might be easier for him to cope if the end is in sight? can he come over more often for weekends, or take some annual leave?

I guess I would be inclined to try and make it work for January if you can, as that sounds like a reasonable compromise all round. But if you really can't then you may just have to do what you have to do.