Visiting my friend in hospital who doesn’t have long left

[MonkeyTennis34]

I’m going to see my very close friend in hospital tomorrow evening.
She’s very close to the end.
She’s apparently in and out of sleep/sedation.
I’ve known her for 23 years and she’s been a wonderful friend to me and (I’d like to think) I have to her.
I just don’t want to say anything wrong, overly sentimental etc.
Can someone give me advice please n what to talk about.
It might be the last time I see her.

Do lovely memories, and obviously if she asks you for anything, agree.
sending my love 😍

How sad. I'm so sorry. I would tell her what a wonderful friend she'd been to you. Does she have children? Are her parents still around? I think she might like some reassurance you'll be there for them, if so.

I made a photo book up when my best friend was dying and took that on my last visit. It was something to discuss while she was sleepy. Talk about the good times that the photos were of. She was mostly out of it. I was chatting to her mum about them mostly. Turns out one of her other friends had made a photo book too. Her mum asked to keep them when she died. Just hold her hand and tell her what a fabulous friend she is. That’s the only good thing about knowing someone is dying, you can tell them how special they are.
Sending you a hug. It’s tough watching someone fade away, but it’s worth it to spend every moment you have with them. I look back now and am glad I did.

Thank you all for your kind suggestions.
I’m visiting her tomorrow.
I know it will be a shock to see how she’s declined but I am looking forward to being with her.

When my lovely MIL was near the end after a stroke I took her a single rose from our garden and placed it next to her other pillow as she loved flowers and we shared a love of gardening.
The nurses left it near her to the end.
Hope your visit goes well.

Had this with DF last year over a few days. Told him we loved him, read some poetry he liked, sang/said songs, chatted about good times, said traditional prayers.
We got reactions and know he knew we were there. Most important when it was over there was nothing left unsaid.

I have attended (too) many deathbeds. What makes it bearable is having something pleasant lined up to chat about, even if the person in the bed is very sleepy. Photos are a great idea, if they can pay a little attention to looking. My late DF drifted away from us as I was telling him our holiday plans. These things are never easy, but they can be more calm and pleasant than you imagine.

This happened to me when I was 25, it was heartbreaking. My friend was the same age so I hadn't even thought in my nightmares that id ever be saying goobye. She was so young. Only advise I can give is tell her everything you want her to know... that you love her, value her friendship and that you are there for her. Maybe lighten things with humour you share.

Tell her all the things. If you can't be sentimental now, then when?

Hearing is apparently the final sense to persist so even if she's not 'there' talk to her, sing to her, read to her, whatever you want.

Let her know what she means to you and talk about all the memories you share.

I'm sorry. 💐

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