Is there a support thread for who's parents have been diagnosed with cancer?

[Totallybannanas]

My dads just been diagnosed and needing some support. Feeling a bit helpless.

My Dad has just been given a terminal diagnosis. It's all really shit tbh. I spent this afternoon signing the please don't resuscitate forms that the lovely local hospice dropped off. I can't offer any useful support for end of life care it's the first time I've done this. I do however have lots of experience of dealing with tonsillar cancer that wasn't terminal if that's any use. Huge hugs, it's not easy

My DF has just suddenly been given a very short prognosis. I’m in shock, he’s so physically fit.

I'm so sorry you are also experiencing this. I think we always feel our parents are invincible. We are still waiting for confirmation of what stage he is at and if it can be treated. I think I've gone from shock, to emotional and now in denial.

Your emotions be like a roller coaster my mam just passed and have a sister 52 terminal with liver cancer. So it is very tough

Oh, I'm sorry sorry to hear this. Its been bloody tough. I'm not normally a drinker, but I've definitely had a drink or two to get through the tough days.

My dad was diagnosed in December. It was in his lung, liver, adrenal glands, lymph nodes and bones.
He was completely healthy and only found out from a chest X-ray as they thought he had a chest infection that wouldn’t shift.
Completely blind sided us.
Hope you’re doing ok

Yeah it's devasting just have to keep strong

Followiy as my dad has just been dowith lung cancer xx # devistated xx

My mam lasted 7 months without treatment her body wasn't able for the treatment

I’m so sorry @Totallybannanas . My beloved mum passed earlier this month, a year after she was given her cancer diagnosis. She had been so fit and well and full of life, with so much living still to do. Until the very end, I truly believed she would get better and am now in shock. I am supporting my father on all of the admin, and there is so much.
Mum spent her last three weeks in a hospice, and for her last month I was by her side - my work were amazing at giving me compassionate leave. I’m so grateful for that time, for all the conversations we had and all the time just spent holding hands.
I wish I had something to say that was of comfort. Make the most of every precious moment you can spend with them.
Mum spoke to us about her wishes for her funeral and although we didn’t want to hear it, it was a relief to know we could give her what she had wanted when the time came.
I hope you have good people around you to lean on.

Yes it takes a long time to come to terns with it and then shock but nothing will take the pain in ur heart away.
Grief sneaks up when Yr not excepting it cud be a song or a scent or just memories .
I'm 6 months in and now iv to go trough it all again with my sister so it's luke going back to square one.
But I find solice in reading self help books . I find they get me trough the tough days

My dad has just been diagnosed with lung cancer, not sure what stage etc but I am devastated xx I'm an only child and my mam and dad are divorced and I'm his only nok xx. I feel numb and want to cry all the time xx

I don't know if I'm okay to join? My best friend has just been diagnosed with cancer ( He's 79 and I'm 46) he's older than my parents (they are 66) so a second dad/grandad to both me and my children. It's such a hard time and a disgusting desease. My friend supported us all through my daughters cancer several years ago, he drove me and my dad to my wedding, he's always been by rock. It's now time for me to do the same, but it's do difficult

I suffered terrible last year with anticipation grief. Its normal to feel all the feelings. Just take a day at a time. There's gonna be lots of appointments.
I actually surprised myself I nursed my mam. Never in a million years would I taught I had the strength to do it. But I did. Its like a second gear kicks in.
Just keep talking about it. But try have your time aswell you can run on an empty tank. Sending hugs 🥰

Don't be afraid to ask questions to the doctors it's a tough conversation to have but ya need to address it

I'm sorry you are all going through the same. We have already found out it is terminal, not alot we can do so hard to keep a positive head on. Not sure of prognosis. I cry everyday I leave home as he lives alone. He wants to go already, he has had a enough and it's hard to hear him say those things.

Yeah my mam was the same she lasted 7 months no treatment.
Just found out yesterday my sisters liver is at chrirrous stage so it's going to be just a matter of time now 😭 I feel numb