Practical advice please

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My lovely FIL has last week had the devastating news that he has three months to live.

Two weeks ago he had a car accident because he had a seizure at the wheel. After various scans he was told that he has an aggressive GBM tumour. It is inoperable. The only treatment offered would prolong his short time by a month or so. He has opted for no treatment.

We are all in an absolute spin. I am trying to help with the practicalities and I have experience in the healthcare side of things.

My MIL has asked me to help with the other financial practicalities and estate planning. I have contacted Macmillan via my work and I am in the process of a PIP application. I am also looking into LPA.

He has no private pension (not yet retired) and can claim his state pension from March next year, if he is still with us.

Macmillan are going to do his will. His estate consists of 50% of the house he shares with MIL and a piece of land worth approx 250k (of which 50% is his). No life insurance.

Is there anything specific I need to think about? I want to take the burden from FIL, MIL, DH and the rest of the family.

Also any ideas on making a special Christmas this year? There are 3 grown up DC and their spouses, and 4 grandchildren aged 14 to 3. We haven't told the DGC anything other than that grandad has been poorly. Not going into the specifics until after Christmas (with the older ones).

Sorry you're facing this , it's a tough time.
Contact the local hospice or Marie Curie to see if they do home visits.
He will be palliative now and if he wants to be at home he need to be on their case load.

Can you ask MIL if they've ever discussed funeral arrangements?

Christmas - what's the normal arrangement? He may want a quieter time.
Or he may be wants everyone there.
Just be aware he may be very tired and could become muddled.

-Living Will/ Advance Care Directive - the treatment he does & doesn't want and how he would prefer to die
-Funeral planning, what are his wishes?

The Compassion in Dying website is a good resource.

Problem with both of the above is they require someone to really face the fact of their death head on, and not everyone can do that, but perhaps someone close to him could broach the conversation.

So sorry you are going through this.

Sorry you are all going through this.

Check sick pay / death in service benefits. Has he ever had any kind of pension provision at all or life / sickness insurance? I appreciate from what you have said it is unlikely, but if there is anywhere he can draw an income from quickly that will at least take that worry away.